Warning: This post contains adult language and adult situations. Oh and it’s long as hell too! So get comfortable before you start! Remember this list focuses on Soul/R&B and is not in any order nor is it exhaustive.
August 13, 1982 He talked to Mama
Eva, she brought that joker to our kid’s school! Now what kind of bullshit is that? Why would she bring a man to our kid’s school function—knowing that I was gon’ be there too? I was humiliated!
I just don’t know what went wrong! I tried to be a good husband to my wife; I took care of all the bills like a good man should.
I thought we were gonna work it out and be a family again-then she go and do this shit here! I’m just so damn hurt!
Eva, if I’m hurt, how you think our kids feel? What do you think they think?
You know, after she left me I just didn’t know what to do with myself. So, I went and talked to her sisters and her mama and they didn’t know what to tell me.
Eva, I’m just beside myself. My kids keep asking me when they mama gonna come back home and I just don’t know what to tell ‘em. I mean, I been calling and calling and calling. She won’t answer me! She won’t even answer the kids unless she know they are calling from her mama or her sister house.
I just need somebody to talk to her.
Eva, would you talk to her for me? Would you tell her what a good husband and father I am? Could you tell her that she need to leave that motherfucker alone and come on back home?
He stopped talking… and started crying.
Mama looked at him and said, “It’s gon’ be alright, I will try to talk to her but I can’t promise you nothing.”
“Eva, that’s all I ask, just talk to her. I know she’ll listen to you.”
August 14, 1982 She talked to Mama
Eva you just don’t know the hell I went through with that man. Yeah he paid all the bills but he wouldn’t quit messing around on me. I had women calling my house asking me to speak to MY husband. I had one heffa try to tell me all about EVERYHTING they had done in bed.
Girl, I put up with that mess for a long time ‘cause we had the kids and I really didn’t have nowhere to go. You have no idea how many nights I cried myself to sleep. Some mornings I wouldn’t even look directly at my babies ‘cause my eyes was so swole from crying.
Then one day I realized that I couldn’t live like that no more so I got me a job and I started working. I worked like hell and as soon as I got enough money saved up, I left his ass.
Yeah, I’ll admit that when I left him I started dating a manager at my job. Eva, he is just so kind and gentle to me. He was there when I really needed somebody. He helped me get on my feet and get a divorce attorney.
Eva, for years I tried talking to my husband. I pleaded with him to change his ways. Girl you know we got good insurance so I called a counselor but my husband said we didn’t need help—he said that we could work things out ourselves. Eva he told me that counseling is for crazy folks and that black people don’t do no shit like that.
Girl, he didn’t change! I even called our preacher but my husband said he didn’t want our business all over the church. I got so pissed that I just hollered, “Everybody already know you fucking around on me—so we ain’t got no business!”
‘Scuse my language Eva, you know I don’t talk like this but the whole thing just really pisses me off! I am still hurting about it!
Girl, I tried and I tried- You hear me?
Now I’m tired and I’ve had enough.
She stopped talking… and looked down.
Mama looked at her and said, “You know he asked me to talk to you about going back home right?”
“Eva, no disrespect to you but you can tell his ass I said to call one of them bitches he was screwing!”
She gave mama a big hug, said her goodbyes and left.
We never saw her again. Last I heard, she took the kids and moved up North somewhere.
I didn’t want to get in trouble for listening snooping but I think mama already knows that I heard everything.
After She left, I felt kinda awkward. I didn’t know what to think so I went on in the living room to sit with mama. I told her that I had heard the whole thing and I asked her if she thought that He and She would get back together.
Mama lowered her head, looked at me and said, “No, because when a person has had enough– they gon’ have enough– and they ain’t gon’ want no more!”
At that very moment, the DJ started playing “If you think you’re lonely now” by Bobby Womack.
Talk about mystery and bubble gum?
What? You never heard nobody say that before? Don’t worry! My French friend taught me to say those words whenever something really strange happens! I say it in English– but for real, it goes: Mystere et boule de gom-or something like that.
Anyway, all this husband and wife stuff is too deep for me! I shoulda just went with my friends to see Friday the 13th Part III.
This probably gon’ be the last one.
🙂 🙂 🙂
Yessir…all that really did happen and my nosey ass was lurking around listening to the whole thing. And of course mama knew I was listening. But y’all it was almost as if she allowed me to listen and hoped that I might learn something from what I had heard.
Well baby, let me tell you right now, I most definitely learned something and here it is: Believe half of what you see and none of what you hear! Oh yes, Brother Marvin had been telling me that for years via the lyrics of ‘Heard it through the Grapevine.” Well, rest assured that it sunk in on August 14, 1982 when I learned that there is always more than one side to a story.
Baby, I had seen that family a million times and I thought everything was cool!
Anyway! What’s good in 1982? I see y’all made it here safe and in good spirits! I just got back from Cousin Ron’s 21st birthday party in Texas! Chile all I gotta say is Airmen know how to have a damn good time! Ooh la la! My French friend taught me that one too!
That’s what’s up with me. Are you ready to spill your tea? Now y’all know I want all the details right? Why don’t you give ‘em up at the after party in the comments section!
I’m ready to get it started!
My Jams ‘82
Call me by Skyy
YAASSSS Ladies! This one is all about stealing your friend’s man!
The dickens you say? Well hell a jam is a jam! We can’t be bothered with morals and stuff!
“…Though your girlfriend is a friend of mine, here’s my number and a dime call me anytime!”
Hell if you gotta spot that joker a dime then he need to stay where he is!
I’m a wonderful thing baby by Kid Creole and the Coconuts
Yeah it was a novelty song but I was a pre-teen back then and I lived for this jam!
Never give up on a good thing by George Benson
I guess it all depends on whose “good thing” he’s talking about.
As we saw in the lead in story, what was good for He damn shole was NOT good for She!
No matter, George DID that with this jam!
Tell me tomorrow by Smokey Robinson
Baby this jam right here is so sweet. The melody is so enticing and romantic.
I guess it has to be if you are trying to convince someone to have one last romp with you before they dump your ass tomorrow!
“…If you can’t be mine forevermore then let’s make it like I never knew …”
Yaaasss, tell me tomorrow Denzel!
Planet Rock by Afrika Bambaataa
BOOM, BOOM, BOOM, BOOM, BOOM……
What in the hell is that? Kids, you gotta understand that our v.82 ears were unaccustomed to the kinds of sounds that we heard coming from this jam!
But baby most of us got used to it!
Mama, however, did NOT!
Circles by Atlantic Starr
Chile, Sharon Bryant, the original lead for Atlantic Starr was the business—DO YOU HEAR ME?
That Queen Diva had her own way of working a jam. That Sista was unique like Chaka Khan!
Just go play this one and listen to her say “…you got me so confused baby, baby, baby!” SHiiiTTTT!! I can’t call it!
The Gigolo by O’Bryan
Boy that rhythm guitar made a quick ass introduction in this jam!
It said, “Hello, I am the rhythm and I plan to rock your ass out!”
Hell I thought it was Ray Parker, Jr!
Again, it might be but I’ll let you check 🙂
Y’all act like y’all done forgot about this boy right here!
“He’s just a gigolo…I don’t think she really know!”
Don’t sleep on this one! It had PLENTY of brass action too!
Are you serious by Tyrone Davis
Aw hell, back to that eternal question: Should I get with this old ass man?
Again, I say, he coulda got it! I don’t give a damn if he was 88; Ty was sexy as hell!
Shine on By George Duke
Yeah, you forgot this one didn’t you!
It has all the sweet sentimentality that a gal like me needs in her life!
George ain’t no joke so please be clear that all of his musical compositions are coming correct!
Don’t get it twisted!
777-9311 by The Time
If the rhythm guitar in “Gigolo” was saying “Hello,” the bass guitar in this jam is saying “WHATZUP!!!!!!”
I simply cannot with this jam!
But I must try!
First, here is a quick dance tip for you newcomers, if you want to dance to this song DO NOT FOLLOW THE DRUMMER!
The drummer is keeping his own damn time and this is NOT a play on words!
Some people swear that Prince played the drums on the original recording—not Jellybean. Frankly, we may never really know….unless we ask Mr. Day and Jellybean’nem.
Anyway, to dance to this jam, start by following the rhythm guitar then rock out to the BASS!
But here comes the killin’ part:
After Morris talks plenty of trash he calls out “Terrrrrrrry!
And baby Terry Lewis then commences to go to WORK on that bass!
Please, somebody go get me some water!
Apache by The SugarHill Gang
The kid’s will remember this from “The Fresh Prince of Bell Air” when Carlton and Will dance to this jam!
That damn Master Gee had my heart baby!
Don’t get me wrong, they all had skills!
Do it…Let me see you shake by the Bar Kays
Yeah, these boys totally revamped after the plane crash that killed all but about two of them; Of course Otis Redding died in that crash too. Like I said in older “My Jams” posts, I can’t talk about it too much or I will cry.
Anyway, I love this jam even though it does NOT highlight any of the instrumentalists; in fact, it sounds like it was totally composed and performed on a synthesizer.
No matter, I liked it anyway! But I did start to worry about the future of music when I first heard it!
Play at your own risk by Planet Patrol
“…If you think that you’re too hot to trot, I’ll take you to the top and then I’ll let you drop.”
Play at your own risk!
Do Wa Ditty by Zapp
“Said I wanna blow… Do Wah…just let me blow…Do Wah Ditty…blow my thang…Do Whah Ditty”
Go ‘head on Roger!
It shoulda been you by Gwen Guthrie
This Queen Diva left us way too soon but baby she gave us some gifts before she did and this jam was one of them.
Here, Gwen laments over a love that just wasn’t meant to be.
With my back to the wind
I face a new horizon
Believe me when I say that it’s true
Even though our love is through
Gwen…girl… it be like that sometime! But I say if you gotta walk out at least you walked out to a kicking ass bassline. YAAASSS!
Wait for me by Slave
Who in the hell wouldn’t wait when Steve Arrington says, “ohhh baby wait for me!”
I don’t know ‘bout you but I’m waiting for Steve!
God I love this song!
Favorite Person by The O’Jays
That’s my jam! (But aren’t they all?) Anyway, I don’t just listen to this, I perform it!
Great music and singers never really go away!
That said, baby the O’Jays were still kicking it in 1982!
Don’t believe me? Go check out this jam!
Oh yeah and while you’re at it go holler at “Satisfy you” and everything else on that Album!
“Out of all the women in the world, you’re my favorite girl!”
Something about that woman By Lakeside
I know Lakeside! Don’t you worry — the fellas say that about me all the damn time!
Another good SOLAR jam!
Show me where you coming from By Carrie Lucas
Aw shit now! This right here! What???
I love this song. This very pretty Queen Diva, Carrie Lucas, is working the hell out of this jam and she does it over a funky ass bassline that is reminiscent of Taana Gardner’s “Heartbeat!” Could that have been Leon Sylvers on bass? I wouldn’t put it past him.
I TOLD y’all back in the late ‘70’s that SOLAR was NOT gon’ be bullshitting! Now I guess you believe me!
I am adding the video in comments! But remember it’s from ’82 so don’t expect too much! Peep the pop lockers in the background! Pop locking was the shit back then!
High Hopes by SOS Band
This is dedicated to She from He
Now go peep the into!!!
Just plain dead!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
“… I’ll never, ever, ever come around to see you again….I had high hopes for you and me…thought we’d stay together eternally…!
“This can’t be…you with another and girl it’s killing me.”
Nights over Egypt by The Jones Girls
Talk about a smooth ass jam! You’ll not find one smoother—I can promise you that!
The Walk by The Time
I fell in love with this song from the first freaking note! Musically it just does it for me!
Oh but when you add a showdog like Morris Day to a bad ass beat you get some other kinda animal.
Your boy, Morris, was funny as hell.
Check out my favorite verses:
Damn, I’m ’bout to walk a hole in my Stacy Adams
What time is it?
Little cute guitar player, make your mama proud
I want all of Detroit City to stand up, clap your hands
Alright you Polaroids, stay in time with the drummer
Jellybean, don’t be so mean
Mr. Jellybean, turn it around, bass man walk downtown
Go on and walk, Terry!
Then there’s the hilarious dialogue between Morris and Vanity:
Say, hey baby, where you goin’?
I’m going home, I can’t dance like that
Well baby, that’s because you got those jeans on too tight
Now let’s just take ’em off
What do you mean, “Let’s just take ’em off?”
Come on, take ’em off, I got something for you to wear, here, put this on
Uh, you always keep lingerie in your glove compartment?
None of my women wear gloves, now put this on
But my ass, hey, a play on words
But all the girls will stare at me
All the girls in this neighborhood already wear camisoles…
Damn baby, how’d you get all that in them jeans?
It wasn’t easy
I know that’s right, well, I think you’d be more comfortable in this
I’m sure I would, I don’t know
Hurry up Grace, song’s almost over
My name’s not Grace
I know that, but hurry up—- Grace…
Okay baby, now check this out. We gonna walk ’til the song’s over
In other words, meet me at the bar in 32 measures, cool?
And if you’re good, I’ll let you work the stick in my ride
Talkin’ cash shit! (Lyrics updated, source for lyrics had a few typos)
Alligator Woman by Cameo
I freaking loved this jam! It had that whole new-wave thing that we were all trying to adjust our ears to! Y’all the drummer showed his ass a time or two on this one! Listen close! Maybe it was Larry! Remember he was the drummer before he threw all the damn instruments away!
“You’re a mess I must confess….”
I know you got another by The Reddings (Yes those Reddings!)
Here come them Jawja boys again y’all!
This shit right here was funky as hell! I don’t care what NOBODY say!
Dexter had that bass going EVER-Y-WHERE!
Peep these lyrics:
I just give up, I just give up on you
Everything I try to do
I just give up, I just give up on you
You always turn around and abuse
I just give up, I just give up on you
Time and time again
I just give up, I just give up on you
You sneak around all over town with your bad news. Girl pleez!
I just give up, I just give up on you
But it…don’t matter, don’t matter, don’t matter
Don’t matter, don’t matter ‘bout nuthin no mo!
YASSSS…The Reddings straight outta Macon, GA! Just some good ole country boys with a whole lotta money!
Word to the wise, don’t let country boys fool you! They might talk slow but them jokers already 4 steps ahead of your ass! Yessuh!
My daddy tried to warn me about them slow talking Jawja boys! Your girl didn’t listen and let’s just say that things didn’t always bode well for me!
Ask Cousin Ron ‘bout them Jawja boys!
We don’t have to talk about love by Peabo Bryson
Alright, it’s time to slow it down!
I ain’t heard this one in a long time! How ‘bout you?
Well baby, let me warn you, it will make your nature rise!
Hope you got somebody to work that out with! Or something…
Jamie by Ray Parker Jr
Guitar extraordinaire! Yes baby! This joker is a beast on guitar.
Well this one was a nice little mid-tempo jam and Lil Lady G wore the grooves off it!
And now….Let’s see what Eva was bumping!
Love come down by Evelyn Champagne King
Sexual healing by Marvin Gaye
Let it whip by the Dazz band
The other woman Ray Parker Jr.
Muscles and Mirror, Mirror by Diana Ross
Mama used to say by Junior
Forget me nots by Patrice Rushen
A night to remember by Shalamar
Early in the morning by The Gap band
1999 by Prince
There it is by Shalamar
You dropped a bomb by The Gap band
I’m so excited by The Pointer sisters
So fine by Howard Johnson
My latest my greatest inspiration by Teddy Pendergrass
Dance wit’ me by Rick James
Ribbon in the sky by Stevie wonder
Cutie pie by One Way
Street Corner by Ashford and Simpson
I’ll try something new by A Taste of Honey
I really don’t need no light by Jeffrey Osborne
Dance floor by Zapp
If this world were mine by Cheryl Lynn and Luther Vandross
Keep on by D-train
Young love by Janet Jackson
I want to hold your hand by Lakeside
In the raw and Emergency by The whispers
Let’s celebrate by Skyy
Be yourself by Cameo
Knockout by Margie Joseph
The Smurf by Tyrone Brunson
Wanna be with you by EWF
Since I lost my baby by Luther Vandross
Yo’ mama by Wuf ticket
Who sticking it By sunrise
Keep it Live by Dazz band
Still water by O’Bryan
Gigolos get lonely too by The Time
Must be the music by Secret Weapon
Girl by Time
Imaginary Playmates by Rene and Angela
Goodbye 1982! I love you!
Whew! That should keep y’all occupied for a minute! Meet me in comments so we can talk about the year that was, the memories and the music!