I’ve Noticed…





Friends, I’d like to chat with you about some things that I have recently noticed.

Before I begin, allow me to warn you in advance that you may or may not agree with any of my observations.

That’s alright with me.

But, hopefully, after you read this, we will still be able to maintain a high level of mutual respect; even if we have opposing points of view.

In my mind, that is one of the hallmarks of civility; don’t you think?


Let me start by saying that I strongly believe that we ALL matter.  Every single one of us.


However, based on several past and present events, I’ve noticed that some people do not agree with me. Sadly, I have no choice but to draw this conclusion based on the murders of Alton Sterling and Philando Castile; not to mention Trayvon Martin, Eric Garner, Michael Brown, Sandra Bland and so on…

To be blunt, I’ve noticed that, to some folks, we, as Black people, don’t matter much at all.

Assuming that this is the case, some of us have felt compelled to respond by attempting to validate or reiterate our value. Unfortunately, others have intentionally decided to misrepresent this validation in order to advance an agenda that is racially divisive.

To be clear, if I were to say to you, “Black lives matter,” recognize that I am NOT saying “ONLY Black lives matter;” I am saying that “Black lives matter TOO.”

To be honest, I don’t even know why I feel the need to clarify that point. Frankly, I find it ridiculous that I, or anyone else, would need to convince another human being that we all have the same intrinsic value?

Are we not an advanced civilization?

Anyway, I’ve also noticed another troubling phenomenon.

In essence, I have observed the tendency for some folks to attempt to deflect attention away from any conversation about the staggering number of deadly interactions between police officers and Black people by pointing to so-called “Black on Black crime.”  They do this in order to imply that Black people are not as concerned when a Black person is murdered by another Black person.  How ludicrous is that?  To be fair, the next question should be, “Why are you concerned about ‘Black on Black crime?’ Are you working to fix it?”

If the answer is, “No,” then the follow-up statement has to be, in the words of Jesse Williams, “Then, sit down.”

To be honest, in most cases, I don’t expect that the answer will be “Yes.”

Now, before I proceed with my next point I’d like to stress the fact that most people are more likely to be murdered by someone that they know or interact with on a regular basis.  That said, Blacks tend to kill more Blacks and Whites tend to kill more Whites and Asians tend to kill more Asians and so on and so forth.

Suffice it to say, we, as Americans, have a major problem with violence –across the board.

With that in mind, I would ask folks to resist the temptation to engage in conversational trickery, and, instead, I’d ask that they take a moment to think more compassionately about what happens to entire families and communities when a police officer, or anyone else, decides to use unnecessary deadly force against another human being.

To bring it home, folks should ask themselves :

What would I do if Philando Castile took good care of my autistic child? How would I explain his death?  Why am I even HAVING to explain his death?

Finally, I’ve noticed that many of us are quick to paint all law enforcement officers with a broad and negative brush stroke –without considering the fact that they have a VERY tough job to do and they are often undertrained and overworked.  To be sure, that’s the kind of thinking that led to the tragic murders of several police officers in Dallas.

It should be noted that I have a special regard for law enforcement; both my father and brother worked in that field.

Anyway, instead of complaining, we need to be sure to vote for folks who will insure that the right people are selected to say the oath and carry the badge. Clearly, not everybody is cut out for such a demanding and stressful career. Trust me, we will continue to see more and more abuse of power cases if we don’t start vetting law enforcement officers more closely.

I don’t know about you but I don’t want to deal with a short tempered simple-minded ass bully carrying a glock.

In addition, once officers are properly vetted and hired, higher-ups need to teach them how to, for example, de-escalate a volatile situation; we all know that it can be done.  Sadly, it seems that de-escalation is more likely to happen when the suspect is NOT Black or Brown.

I’m just sayin!

By the way, it is not lost on me that some police officers have a tendency to ESCALATE an otherwise manageable situation. Again, proper law enforcement training is critical to a relatively peaceful outcome.

Ok, I’ve had my say.  And to be brutally honest, it took me a few days to calm down before I wrote this post.  I didn’t want to run everybody off! LOL!

Please believe that your girl was pissed the fuck off!  But I am a little better now so I’ll go ahead and move on.

But before I go, let me warn you, those of us who refuse to get our act together and move forward in a loving and positive way will find ourselves in a state of extinction.  No system can maintain itself with this level of insanity.

So, I know what I gotta do.

What about you?


25 thoughts on “I’ve Noticed…

  1. Reblogged this on Seek The Best Blog and commented:

    I wrote this in the summer of 2016.
    Granted, as Americans, we don’t like things that make us uncomfortable. That said, I’m asking that we lean into that discomfort and engage in some DEEP self analysis.
    For animal lovers, like me, I’ll admit that I was very upset with Amy Cooper for the way she allowed her hatred for a man that she didn’t know to cause her to nearly choke her own damn dog to death.
    I’m not going to even touch on her willingness to militarize the police because someone called her on her stuff!
    Now imagine if Christian Cooper had walked over and pressed his knee on that dog’s neck for almost 10 minutes—-until he DIED!
    That’s precisely what happened to our brother, and fellow human, George Floyd!
    We need to check ourselves!
    Make no mistake, America has decided to host a picnic in a gas station bathroom; voluntarily becoming nose-blind to the persistent stench of hatred and death.
    Flat out, until we deal with racism and white superiority, American will never get its chance to be GREAT. Nobody wishes it were GREAT more than people like me!
    God have mercy on us! Christ have mercy on us!
    #Rest in Power George Floyd


  2. Lennon Carlyle

    Well said my friend…..well said. The lives lost sickens me to the core. I can hardly watch the news anymore because it hurts my heart. Thank you for posting it and being so honest. XOXO

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  4. Advanced Research Technology

    As a white guy, I grew up in the black section of a large city. I always liked the blacks. They didn’t bother me as long as I didn’t bother them. It was kind of easy in a way.

    I still get along with the blacks as well as any other race. I do think you make an important point when you say one soul is as valuable as another, no matter what colour. Do black lives matter? You betcha!

    We’re all one, and the sooner we recognize that, the sooner things become easier. It all begins with us and how we choose to relate to our brothers and sisters. There are no enemies, just other souls, just like us, whom we can reach out to and make their lives better.

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    1. Thanks for the comment my friend. I, too, have friends of all races so it’s hard for folks like you and I to understand the thinking of a racist.
      I am hopeful that the best of both groups will rise up and make an observable change for the better.

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  5. Woebegone but Hopeful

    Hello Gwin.
    Thank you for this explanation. I believe your comments to be succinct, and correct in their analysis (sorry about the tone- it’s my UK civil service style- explanation to follow)
    I’ve been reading comments, analyses, punditory, downright angry, heart-breaking- anguished, pro-police, anti-police over the last week, trying as an outsider to reach my own sort of conclusion or observation. I finally had to put my UK Civil Service glasses on and look at the public service perspective. Sorry if this sounds detached but it’s essential for me to reach a conclusion which is solid. (I’ve had it up to here with home-grown emotive ill-informed biased ‘stuff’ on recent UK issues)
    If there is a public service which has the distrust of a section of the community to the extent that they do not have confidence in it or its systems, and that these issues are such that they are garnering not only a great deal of debate but generating violence then I can only conclude that there is something systemically wrong with that service. This stands to reason under public service guidelines and my own experience.
    I feel you have made the more important point here regarding selecting and training. It’s counter-productive to supply a public service with all kinds of ‘hardware’ if the individuals are not thoroughly trained in all aspects of their tasks. It is also essential to ensure that those individuals are monitored in their job, for the good of the public and for the good of their colleagues; some need to be ejected, some may be buckling and thus need to be supported back to strength. There must also be a strength of purpose in the ‘management too. This does not come easy and does not come cheap.
    I would write more but am currently working on a longer and more involved post of my own, and this is your place to put your views, so I’m concluding my response, in the hope this adds something to your post.
    Best wishes

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    1. Thank you so much Roger for dropping by and for chiming in. I appreciate your willingness to take time to educate yourself on this issue by reading various perspectives.
      I actually like the fact that you decided to analyze it from a UK Civil Service point of view. It’s very important to have someone step back from all of the emotions–from both sides– in order to come to a rational conclusion,
      That said, I think you hit the nail on the head. Black folks have lost confidence in law enforcement; that is all there is to it. With that being the case, as you said, the whole thing needs to be cleaned up and reorganized. Unfortunately, you are right, this won’t be easy and it won’t be cheap.
      You and I had already had this discussion so I know that most of what I said here was a repeat for you but I am glad that you stopped by and offered such a thorough comment.
      By the way, yes this is my space but I always have room for folks like you to come over and write as much or as little as you would like, I love it!
      I can’t wait to read your post on the topic. I am a little bit behind on my reading because my daughter started back to school today so I’ve been busier than usual but I catching up now.
      Take care Roger and thanks again for stopping by 🙂
      By the way, I’ve still been following Brexit and I have to say that I cannot believe that the same folks who decided to tear everything apart have now decided to step away. What the hell?

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      1. Woebegone but Hopeful

        Thank you Gwin for your kind words.
        I try to stay out of other countries internal problems on the basis of What Do I Know? This one has some strange parallel with events in the UK since we opted for Brexit, not quite sure but it has to do with the issue of Trust. I am glad my words came out OK.
        We’ve had a hectic week with political moves in all directions. Trying to be simple- The Government Party; The Conservatives have always been divided over Europe, through the result of the referendum everything went seismic, David Cameron (pro-Europe) quit. There was a House of Cards situation for leadership and the last ‘man’ standing is Theresa May a woman of some experience and a Conservative stalwart; she will now be Prime Minister; The Conservatives have a reputation for being quite ruthless in leadership contests, and anyone who weakens get squashed, so all sorted.
        Labour (supposed to caring about the weak, poor and working folk) would rather fight over who is in charge of the party than be in government. In fact one wing (supposed to be the one I would have affinity with) would rather complain and snark than do the job. Basically Jeremy Corbyn has the support of the thousands of ordinary party members but not the Labour Members of Parliament (who are mostly pro-Europe), they claim he is not a good leader; so we have any election for the leader, which may go through the courts before it even get moving (don’t ask); meanwhile everyone calls each other names and The Conservatives simply get on with being in charge.
        Simple isn’t it?
        Take Care Gwin

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        1. Oh good grief. Looks like a long prayer is needed over here and over there. Thanks for the update. I’d much rather hear it from you than anywhere else.
          Talk to you soon Roger.

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  6. Well said Cuz. I believe you’re onto the problem and the solution, when it comes to who should and should not be policemen. A small town Chief of PD and friend told me that, until recently, a person could go from street to copy in 4 weeks, now it’s 12 weeks. 12 weeks to acquire a gun, a badge and a license to kill. These are your, town, city, and county cops.

    State police, DNR law enforcement, and Highway patrolman are screened better, vetted more, trained better and longer. Some have degree requirements, consequently, We hardly ever hear of these “shootings” by these officers.

    As far as the bigots and idiots…Like Oprah said…”they’re gonna just have to die off”.

    I just got and idea tho, let the fearful, unvetted, untrained cops police the bigots and idiots.

    Give the rest of us the vetted cops.

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    1. Thanks for checking this out cuz. I agree, we got to cut those cancerous elements out of the force because no amount of training is going to help them once they’ve reach a certain ‘critical mass’ of hatred.
      Sad thing is that a lot of the bigots and idiots raise bigoted and idiotic children to take their place when they die off.
      Two things that I didn’t mention, on purpose, was the militarization of police and the hiring of vets that might be suffering from PTSD; that’s a whole ‘nother can of worms that Lady G just did not have the energy to address.
      I’d love to hear your thoughts on these issue-especially because you are a vet that served for 20 years.

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  7. Gwin, you have articulated a narrative that accurately depics the malicious antagonisms and preemptive red herrings trolls, racists, and knowledge challenged individuals attempt to get into the conversations about the policing of minorities and the value of Black life in our society.

    You mentioned you didn’t want to run anyone off. Lady, if the to the point truths that you curated in the above post runs anyone off – they had no business in here in the first place. I’m elated this post doesn’t placate veiled trolls, racist provocateurs, morally and emotionally bankrupt cowards that seek only to divide and conquer through literal manipulation and a litany of verbal assaults.

    Your views in this post can’t be denounced because they’re supported by facts..Anyone looking to debate the rudiments of ” to some folks, we, as Black people, don’t matter much at all” , or the point that ” Black lives matter TOO” or the glaring fact that “America has a violence problem”, are beings pushing an agenda that is not conducive to the conversation or the issues at hand. Let them leave.

    You’re right when you write “I have observed the tendency for some folks to attempt to deflect attention away from any conversation about the staggering number of deadly interactions between police officers and Black people by pointing to so-called “Black on Black crime.” Thank you for calling them out – they needed to be outed. It’s high time somebody attempted to derail the use of Black on Black crime as a Red Herring to obfuscate the oppression, abuse, and murder of Blacks by other entities and channels. This post does that.

    Gwin, I have to give this post the upper echelon of accolades for calling out the ills – and then pointing to what I feel is one of the most effective solutions toward a resolve of the dilemmas Blacks face in this society today.

    You wrote – “instead of complaining, we need to be sure to vote for folks who will insure that the right people are selected to say the oath and carry the badge. ”

    That word “vote” – you nailed it and the power that word can yield is so desperately needs to be wielded by Blacks. You are one of few journalist / bloggers to point to this very effective prescription that would begin to remedy the pain, and fatality of racism and oppression. Thank you.

    Our institutions of publicly elected officials and lawmakers have to be vetted before voted in or appointed to a position. The findings of the vetting process have to endorse #blacklivesmatter, #violenceisnotasolution, and the vetting process has to confirm cosign and prove that the official being vetted believes that The Constitution of The United States applies to all – ALL U.S. citizens.

    I guess I kind of got up on the soapbox with you on this one Gwin. That’s cool because you wrote passionately about some passionate issues. Issues that I too am passionate about.

    And you did an excellent job!

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    1. I’ll give you space on my soapbox anytime. Thank you for your kind words!
      I have been commenting about this issue on a couple of blogs so I decided I needed to cull my thoughts together and post them for all of my readers here.
      I just hope that I did my folks justice.

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