Get My Stuff

On By Lady GIn Interpersonal/Intrapersonal Relationships, Uncategorized

 

 

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Yeah, I know the title is short but the only other option was “Go getteth mine stuffeth!”

Of course, that would have been both improper and nonsensical 😉

And so…

Here goes…

I’ve been thinking about stuff lately.

No…I’m not talking about big stuff like houses and cars, I’m talking about little stuff like:

That figurine of a bearded alpine man in lederhosen leaning on a walking stick

The ceramic Raggedy Ann that holds a hodge-podge of unused cooking utensils

The glass genie lamp lighter that stopped lighting things some 35 years ago

The Aztec blanket from Cancun that really isn’t that comfortable

And the five hundred zillion other things that so many of us have bursting out of our closets, garages, rooms, shower stalls, storage houses, PODS…and so forth.

Uh, I’m sure by now that you’re wondering where I’m going with this crazy diatribe.

Well, all of this talk of stuff is the direct result of the fact that, lately, we’ve experienced and witnessed a great deal of loss including a Godfather and the beloved fiancé of one of my oldest and dearest friends.

And with that comes thoughts of stuff and the tasks associated with dealing with a person’s property after they die.

How does that all work?

Well, typically, a family member or a close friend has to decide how to appropriate or dispose of these things.

Trust me, it ain’t an easy job.

In fact, I very clearly remember sorting through all of my mother’s things after she passed away.

There I was, sitting on the closet floor, looking at my Mama’s winter coat thinking, “But I need to keep this, she’ll need it for the cold.”

No doubt, I’d temporarily forgotten to remember that Mama no longer needed anything anymore.

Ah, but when I did remember to remember, I immediately started to cry and my mind began to wander to the day when someone would have to go through my stuff and decide what to do with it.

Within an instant, oodles of clothes and shoes and books and what-nots flashed in my mind’s eye.

And then…

I “saw’ all of  my journals and diaries.

Who would be looking through that?

My hopes, dreams, and confessions!

And it hit me!

I need a plan…lest my sensitive, private and confidential thoughts come out of the dark 😉

Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing diabolical in there but some things need to remain unread and unspoken—they’re just too personal.

Anyway, back to my story…

That day, after exiting Mama’s closet, I decided that I needed to hand-select someone to go get my stuff after I die.

Someone trustworthy.

Oh! But what happens if that person dies before I do?

What to do?

What to do?

What to do!?

LOL!

Ironically, I remember comedian-disc jockey, Tom Joyner rhetorically asking, “Who went to get Bob Hope’s private stuff?”

No, seriously…

Who?

Well, that got me thinking some more.

Maybe I should start paring down and destroying some of this stuff BEFORE I die.

I mean, do I really need all of this junk anyway?

Hey, God already knows about the other part.

LOL!

What do you think?

I know that it’s not necessarily a pleasant thing to ponder but, I ask, who’ll be sorting through your stuff once you’ve taken a “celestial discharge?”

Meet me in comments…Let’s discuss.

 

 

 

 

 

 

70 thoughts on “Get My Stuff”

  1. ronbrownx

    I, like you, have suffered the loss of a parent. Long after Dad’s death, I went rummaging through the old house on South Street, looking for things of his, in particular, anything he’d written. I came away with yearbooks from every year of his college days spent at Tuscaloosa getting his teaching degree. I also salvaged the notes from 6 or 7 of his oratorical masterpieces.

    I feel so fortunate to have salvaged these items. I have since placed them in secure and safe locations. Yet, I still think about how much of his legacy was lost. I bet he never realized that one of his children would value these few items so much.

    These thoughts led me to begin my project of documenting as much of the family legacy and my legacy for my children and their children. One day, they’ll be me, hungry for knowledge of the ones who came before.

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    1. It always does my heart so much good to see you here my dear cousin!
      This really is something to think about Cuz especially when dealing with the things of someone as prolific as your Dad was–and you are for that matter.
      But what troubles me is the fact that your Dad’s things could have easily been lost had you not had the desire to curate those treasures.
      Fact is, everybody doesn’t value the same things so I agree with your idea of culling together stories of the family and of you in particular. You will have made it much easier for your kids to know what to keep and what to chunk! LOL!!!! 🌹💋💋💋

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  3. This just hits my spot perfectly. Your posts always do. 🌹

    My In-Laws lived with us until they died and it took many years to get their belongings, from depression-era “saving for what-if” syndrome, narrowed down to the things that mattered, and all into a small cedar chest. With my husband so ill, I have been providing McMe a bit of therapy by filling a 15″ square box, every day, and taking it to Goodwill. Culturally and personally, I do not keep much except the clothes on my back. With over 40 years of marriage with a fellow that caught his parents depression-era mindset, my home is filled … mostly exploding closets. My small-box trips to Goodwill have been going on now for about 45 days. I can feel the difference clearly in my surroundings. It is more than important to me for my son NOT to have to go through all this business after we are both gone. If I die first then that will be God’s little joke on me trying to control the situation. 😜

    Seriously, I plan to downsize to a place of tiny, tiny proportions. Another answer in my personal puzzle of, “What do I leave behind that will do no harm?” … 1) I already got rid of all that “stuff” that may be too shocking for those left behind. 2) I have narrowed “me” down to a Traveler’s Journal with inserts for the following: Spiritual Journey (This goes deep and would leave anyone finding it with what my observations and experiences of life have been. It also encompasses my eclectic nature, embracing of humankind and my spiritual path.); Personal Health (Documenting any health struggles and methods of natural relief); Herbal Medicine (I am educated in this area and it is good to pass on remedies that will be most helpful to future generations.); Uplifting Things (Filled with stories of gifts in life that have been absolutely and positively delightful. Includes favorite bits of wisdom from others I have met along the way … whether in person or in the joyous comfort of a book. Some of my own “wisdom bits” are contained here, as well … though my identity in having said them is not paramount). Interspersed throughout the journal small envelopes are tucked containing letters written directly to the unidentified reader. So … that is all. Someday, someone will walk into my tiny abode and on the kitchen table will be a Traveler’s Journal (TJ) … all that is left of me. It is a comforting mental picture.

    Thank you for the post. “Celestial Discharge” … Love! 😘

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    1. I should add that the Traveler’s Journal may end up being ousted before it is all said and done. Could have a “that old thing” moment. You know how that goes. Seems I have a penchant for hoping to pass through without leaving tangible tracks.

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    2. My dear Eve! I have learned so much about you from this thoughtful response. But, first, let me thank you for your kind words. So much to say..where to start?…Oh…I will add you and your dear hubby to my prayer list–you know the one that is often seen by “The Great Wheel Taker!” LOL , I’m still laughing about that.
      But on a serious note, I do send my prayers for peace and comfort. Forty something years is a long time to share with someone so I admire that commitment.
      Kudos on the Goodwill visits. Those clearly do you good!
      I absolutely LOVE the idea of a “Traveler’s Journal.” Your son is going to be so lucky. You have now got me thinking about creating someting similar for my own two kids…or for anybody else that might be interested.
      Your thoughts on leaving limited evidence that you passed through made me think of this song:

      By the way, my friend, I told the story of where the term “Celestial Discharge” came from in my post today.
      Much love and light to you my dear friend 🙂

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      1. Thank you so much for your prayers, my friend … and I am thrilled the list is THAT one. LOL! It is appreciated more than you know. 🌹 I hope you do begin a special journal for your children. It would be a special drop of light. Another thing I like about this type of journaling process is that it rid me of all the journals that came before. Freeing! Can you see me standing by the sea with my long grey hair blowing in the wind? THAT kind of freeing. Seriously! As for the song, it brought tears. One of my forever favorites that takes me back to particular times and places. Certainly a deeper meaning than when I was a youngstess. 😜 I am off to look into “Celestial Discharge.” Looking forward to reading it. Love to you and much peace in your swirl. 💜

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        1. YAAASSS! (Remember…it’s the affirmative word)
          LOL!!!!!
          Seriously I can ‘see’ you with that gray crown of glory blowing in the breeze.
          What a beautiful image! Pure freedom.

          And I’m so glad you enjoyed the song–I thought you might be too young to remember it 😉

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  4. Nice piece. And I want to relate it with a whole lot of stuffs we carry around as humans in our hearts and life. Material stuffs that ain’t necessary should be given our to people who need them. Things of the heart weighing us down should be done away with. I for one love an uncluttered life.

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    1. Thank you my friend. You are absolutely right, we do carry quite a bit of spiritual, mental and emotional stuff. That is yet another area that I have been working to process. My goal is to be free from all of the clutter; be it material or abstract. Thanks for stopping by and thank you for your work as a teacher 🙂

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  5. tunisiajolyn84

    Hmm an interesting question. I have no idea who would get my stuff. I guess it depends on when God takes me back home. I am the baby of the family so ideally, no one in my immediate family would be responsible so maybe one of nieces or nephews would have to take care of it or one of my close friends? Or who knows? I may have a husband and he would be the one to take care of it. Luckily for whoever it is, I probably won’t have that much stuff. I’ve been working towards downsizing my things (including some personal things that I got rid cause that would too much tea spilled about me lol). I love the idea of minimalism and I think that is where I’m headed (it won’t be crazy minimalism like I got just two outfits to my name but reasonable for me and my taste I think.) Well, that’s cool to explore. I like questions that make me think and this was definitely one of them. Thanks for asking it! 🙂

    http://www.tunisiajolyn.com

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    1. Hey Darling! Thanks for stopping by. You know I hollered about people witnessing your spilled tea! LOL!!! For real, that’s exactly what I was talking about!
      LOL!
      Oh and extreme minimalism? Uhhhhh… NOPE! I’m like you, I won’t ever be able to do that. But the idea of adopting certain aspects of minimalism is appealing to me. In fact, I do think that’s where I am heading.
      Oh and I am very happy that I was able to give you a little something to ponder! Kisses!

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  6. Lady G, I always assumed my children would get my stuff. The dairies…the personal gunk at some point at some level I would have shared parts of it with them …maybe not the gory as you stated God already knows about that. I trust them to part with “my stuff” with their hearts. Hugs!

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    1. Hey my love!
      Yes, I too imagine that my children would get my stuff. I just don’t want them to have to worry about what to do with some of this junk. LOL!!! No seriously, I have really pared down so they won’t have a whole lot to go through but I do know people who have rooms and rooms and rooms filled to the brims with stuff.
      I mean, who in the world do they think wants to go through all of that?
      Girl and yes, God knows about the rest! LOL!!!!!
      In your lovely words, “Love you BIG!”
      Hugs and kisses!

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  7. Bonita

    This was a very thoughtful post. So, I did what you intended and started thinking. Also, it’s raining so that adds a nice level of melancholy to this whole process. I hate to sound morbid, but your personal writings that you think should stay secret should not worry you too much. Once you’ve moved into your new Heavenly home you’re not really going to care if your secrets get out. Unless they will cause needless pain, like say you’re stuck on your first love and your husband (who is not your first love) and you don’t want him reading those letters you’ve been writing to him all these years. That should go. But, secrets from your childhood, or experiences you’ve had only help those who you leave behind to see you in a new light. I’ll explain,

    I loved my Grandpa with all my heart. He raised me when no one else in my family wanted me. He was larger than life in my eyes. Brilliant, fair, stern but kind, educated, and so on and so on. When he died I was ripped apart by grief. I sat at his desk and bawled 35 years of love and sorrow onto his blotter. But, then I found his journal. He faithfully wrote in it every day. And Every single day he begged God to take him. He was 97 when he died and I have at least 4 years of journal entries pleading for death. I never knew. He never let on that he was in any pain, that when he looked in the mirror he saw a corpse and not himself. I imagine he would have been horrified to know I read those things, but it helped me move past my grief. I also learned that I was named after his beloved dog, and how much he worried that I would become like my mother. things he never spoke about, but things I am glad I now know. Except being named after the dog. I could have done without that bit of information.

    Thanks for making me think.

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    1. Bonita,
      Thank you so much for writing such a wonderful response. I appreciate your taking the time to let me know that this post resonated with you on a deeper level.
      Frankly, your comment has expanded my perspective in many ways. Especially the part about your grandfather and what his true wishes were. It’s amazing how much we can never know about a person- no matter how much we think we know about them.
      All in all, it is clear to me that he loved you and wanted all the best for your life.
      No doubt, he had lived a very long life and probably had seen way more than you and I could ever imagine. The peace of moving on to heaven probably beckoned. Bless his soul.
      Oh, the doggie name story made me smile big.
      Love and light to you 🙂 Thanks for stopping by and I apologize for the delayed response 🙂

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  8. I’ve been through several of these myself, and it has left me with the same thought. I really think, as we get older, we should begin to purge more and more. It really is a burden to leave with the living, and quite honestly, at some point there’s no reason to even have all that stuff! There’s my $.02 😉

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    1. Dr. Garland’s advice is worth much more than $02. I checked the salary website and they pay Ph.D’s and Ed.D’s pretty darn well! LOL!!
      But seriously, I agree, leaving a bunch of junk to sort is burdensome to the living. I mean, we’ve got stuff on top of stuff that could be sold and have the proceeds donated and/or circulated to someone else.
      Besides, scripture warns against storing up treasures on Earth.

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  10. Very thought-provoking M’Lady! You obviously have been doing some deep thinking about the hereafter – brought on no doubt by those recent loved ones passing. I say, instead of concerning yourself about who’s going to do what with your stuff when you stuff, sorry snuff it, get those diaries and journals out and give us, your devoted readers a glimpse into that ‘…too personal’ world of yours! I dare you! hahahahaha
    ps. sorry if this isn’t the right sort of tone for ‘celestial discharging’ – but I’m dying to know what goes on in those secret places of your mind. Call me nosy! lol

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    1. Ah..How are you lovely Madame Mystic Marie! Yes, I have been wading into some deep waters. LOL!
      As for those diaries and journals they hold some serious tales LOL!!! There are a few who are close to me that know those stories and they are probably crying, blushing, laughing–and possibly some combination of all three! LOL!!!
      Maybe some of these things could be told, but that would have to be between you and me over tea in England! 🇬🇧 ☕️ 🍪
      Wouldn’t that be grand! 😂

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  11. I have been wondering that too. I am not sure just who is exactly on my wavelength, and who would have much interest in what I wrote. Also, like you, some of my writing is way too personal. So far I think that in time I will have to cull some of the really personal stuff so that no one reads it.

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    1. Hello there my friend! So happy that you chimed in. And YES! I really do wonder about my writings. I mean, I’m the type of person who has always written EVERYTHING down; I don’t know, it’s just something that I instinctually did…and
      I really do not want anybody fumbling all over that stuff 🙂 LOL!!! Like you, I better get to culling these so they can fuel the fireplace LOL!!!

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  12. Woebegone but Hopeful

    I’m doing that! Stuff goes. And then I get new stuff.
    But now I’m thinking ‘the kids can sell these comic books/board games when I’ve quit this mortal realm because the said objects will have accrued in value. These are investments,’……and then I start to think: ‘But who should have which ones? I don’t want them to inheritance arguments. Or should they put everything in a communal pot and divide up the sales? But suppose they want to keep some, who keeps what?’
    Maybe I’m over-thinking here?🤔

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    1. Hey Roger ! 🙂 you are asking some very important questions. You do have to wonder how to process all that stuff and who gets what and why. I don’t think you’re overthinking at all.
      I remember reading about this book called “Die Broke” where the writer argues that we should simply give everything away before we die instead of holding onto it until afterwards. Of course, you keep what you need to live but the idea is to see your children, other family, and friends enjoy gifts of money or stuff during your lifetime.
      It really is a lot to take in.

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      1. Woebegone but Hopeful

        Hi Gwin.
        That’s a profound concept.
        We spent most of our married life being ‘skint’ (britspeak for broke). When my Mum died we inherited a goodly sum. Not enough to buy a house (we lost ours thanks to Thatcher & Co), but enough to spend what we wanted to and hand out to the three children who are really suffering in these harsh times.
        We might die sorta broke.
        As the saying goes ‘So What’????
        If we can help our kids out now, that’s the name of the game.
        10 years ago the financial crisis hit us all thanks to the greed of venal fools, and the lesson still has not been learnt!
        We have to look after out own. This is the era when the ‘old folks’ are better off than the ‘young uns’. Who’d have thought it?

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        1. I am so glad that it all worked out for the good in the end. I know how satisfying it is when you can take care of yourself and share with your children–and those you love.
          We are blessed aren’t we my friend?

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        2. Woebegone but Hopeful

          As my wife often says ‘The Lord Has Been Good To Us’ (although she still reserves the right to look skywards and say ‘Look! What was the point of that God?’)
          But, we have our families, we have our lives…and so much to do (in a good way).
          As you say Gwin. We are blessed indeed.
          All the best to you and yours
          Roger

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  14. Ahhh, a very good question to ponder. When AJ is out of the house, James and I have plans to go minimalist. I’ll save a few treasured keepsakes, but really, who needs all that stuff.

    And, on the note of mothers, I still can’t part with any of my mom’s stuff, including her ashes, but I imagine in time I will. So when I go, and AJ gets tasked with the deed, I’m going to have special boxes for him to find… stuff from his childhood… notes I’ve written to him, etc… just so he can have special memories of me, and I’ve already began, 🤗 (Although relatively counterproductive to going minimalist, lol)

    Oops, now I’m rambling. You’re just too easy to talk to. 😙

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    1. You could NEVER ramble Paula because I love reading your thoughful responses. I soooo get yours and James’ plan to move toward minimalism. I mean, how much easier would life be if you didn’t have all that stuff to worry about. I really do think I’m leaning toward that direction–pack light and travel-that’s my idea of retirement. But, alas, that’s a good ways off.

      As for your mom’s stuff. Take your time if you need to. It really is a very sobering thing to have to do.
      But here’s a crazy story:
      Even though we donated most of Mama’s clothes, I kept a few things. Of those things was a very distinct shawl that I had bought her several years ago. I placed that shawl on top of the other things that I had kept in the back of my truck. Well the very next day I was working off-site at a different office and there, draped over someone’s chair was that EXACT same shawl.
      I FREAKED!
      So I asked my co-worker to take a photo of it but I didn’t tell her why. After she and I left that office I said, “Do you remember the shawl that you took a picture of for me?” And she was like “Yeah.” I said, come to the back of my truck, I opened the trunk and the first thing she saw was that shawl! I said, “It was my Moms!” SHE FREAKED! Because the shawl was in no way common. And what really trips me out is that I had asked Mama for a sign that it was okay to donate her stuff.
      I still got that shawl. It gives me shivers to think about it.

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      1. OMG!!! This gives me shivers too!!!! You asked for a sign and you got it! WOW! Can I share a ‘sign’ with you M’Lady? Well I’m going to anyway! lol When I moved into this new house, as the removal men were off loading, they asked me where the garage was, so I took them to it (it was at the back of the house, down a side-path. As I went to open the garage door, there was a shiny silver coloured 5p coin at the door. So what? you’re thinking… mum collected 5p coins – she had a whole jar of them I found after she passed. Whenever I’m in need of support, I always find a 5p coin in my path. I’ve found at least 6 or 7 since her passing – and always in a place where I least expect them.

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        1. Oh man! I love that story! A shiny silver 5p coin! Love it!
          Don’t you love those little love messages from beyond?
          I have no doubt that our mothers have found ways to let us know that everything is going to work out! Sometimes I will hear someone say Mama’s name on a TV show or commercial. Whenever that happens I have to laugh because I know that it is her way of saying hello.

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        2. Yes!!! Love those signs, Gwin! When I was looking for this house, I decided to walk down the road to see what was beyond it – lo and behold it was ‘the road’ I had been saying I always wanted to live on for about 6 years. I had not realised! I did not get to live on it, but it runs across the one I’m living on now. How spooky is that?? lol

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        4. The comment got sent accidentally before I finished, Lady G. I guess I wasn’t meant to write anymore. lol What I had also intended to say that when I was looking for my present house, we walked past ‘Florence Drive’ that day – Florence is my mum’s name! So I totally get what you were saying about ‘Mama’s’ name.:)

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  15. Ha! Get rid of the evidence!

    I think about this a lot because my folks are getting up there and my dad has a lot of stuff that doesn’t even fit anymore- his body or lifestyle. I’m just tryna keep it tight and continuously downsize and reevaluate my collection of stuff cuz who knows.

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    1. Hey Ms Kelley Girl!!! I love seeing that gorgeous side profile of yours step up in comments. LOL!
      No, really, I do.
      Oh, I and think you’re right to consider keeping it “tight” LOL!
      If you’re anything like me, and I believe you are 🙂 then you probably think about all that stuff as blocked or stagnant energy. Fact is, I need to keep things flowing! LOL!!!
      Thanks for stopping by 🙂

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      1. Thank you! And yes, we are alike in that regard! It’s true; if you’re not using it regularly, maybe someone else could, right? Shed that unnecessary weight!
        And bruuuuuh, dad is 72! He is not gonna be able to get out of that tiny sports jacket from the 80s if he can even get it on!

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  17. I’ll come get your stuff if you come get mine ❤ I always wanted to be a hobo, just carry a knap sack on my back, but alas, I love certain books, and shiny stones….would hurt a body trying to carry it all away. I like to think the personal things like that, someone would look at it and say "what did that girl need hundreds of sharks teeth for?" ha, garage sales are profitable at times 🙂 but yeah, just ignore any "things/unmentionable/girly things that may (or not) be hidden away for a rainy no man day) never used…ha….just kidding….I think?

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    1. ROTFLMAO!!!!!! I am over here screaming with laughter at you girl! LOL!!!!
      Sharks teeth?
      Hey, I understand the shiny stones! I love those!
      And we should go ahead and make a pact to stow away the unmentionables for one another! LOL!!!!!!
      Always good to see you my love!

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      1. Laughing now too, was at the beach today for the first time in a few weeks, another cache of sharks teeth found, it’s fun, trying to find one that’s bigger than the last….kinda like boyfriends, oops…did I say that out loud? Haha…more laughs, I’ve got a fine hubby and wouldn’t trade him for the world😊💕💜 I’ll fetch yours, you fetch mine😶 hmmm…not sayin’nothing!

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        3. Awww…It has been quite eventful around these parts. But it’s always good to shoot the breeze with you and all my friends on WordPress.
          And to answer your question, my oldest just graduated college and my youngest starts 6th grade tomorrow 🙂 LOL!!! Isn’t that a trip?

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  18. It can be a gargantuan task. We are in the 2nd year of clearing out 65 years of accumulated stuff from the in- laws home. They never threw anything away…ever !

    For me, I wouldn’t mind anyone reading my stuff after I’m gone, even the personal stuff. We are retired, and I’m trying to downsize all the time. For one thing, I hate clutter, but it will also save my kids from having to sort through it all one day. Convincing my husband to do the same…whole different issue.

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    1. Hey there Van! Good to see you as always. I think you’ve got the right idea. It appears that your in-laws were excellent teachers (LOL!) God bless you as you work through all of that.
      As for the personal writings, maybe I shouldn’t care-I mean, I’ll be dead so it won’t matter anyway 😉

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  19. Well, first thing that came to mind when you said “stuff” was this:

    But then I read your whole piece and now realize you’re not just talking about any ol’ stuff, but rather: STUFF!! Important stuff!! Keepsakes!! irreplaceable things!!! A whole different ball game.

    When my mom died I felt really overwhelmed. She had a LOT of stuff. So I hired my daughter’s friend who was a professional organizer/declutterer. We divided everything into 3 piles:
    1) estate sale
    2) garbage
    3) divvy up among whoever gets their dibs in (i.e. me, my daughter, my brother etc.)

    Now yes, sure, in an ideal world, you and I, all of us, should go thru our stuff NOW and whittle the piles down to something a lot more ‘manageable.’ But. But. Me, I’m the “L” word. L.A.Z.Y.!!!! I keep thinking I gotta do it! I gotta do it! And then… I don’t do it! Ay yi.

    As for designating our ‘heirs’ to go thru our stuff (hopefully whatever’s left AFTER we’ve whittled it down!) – I suppose we gotta start somewhere and work our way down the list… much like: who will be president after Trump has a stroke, and then Pence, etc. etc. ;-)) Ya start with siblings/kids/your nearest ‘n’ dearest pals, I guess. But girl!! Why are u thinking about this NOW?!? You have a looooooong way to go still!!!!! Stop it!!!!

    Sighhh…

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    1. Ellie! LOL!! You are something else 🙂 LOL!
      I understand exactly what you mean about being lazy. It it more than a notion to go through a whole life worth of keepsakes and other stuff. I still have my son’s notes to Santa and some of his old preschool work. Same with my daughter. I just have a hard time letting things go, but that said, I don’t want my children to be forced to figure it out after I am gone.
      I once heard a woman talk about how her parents hoarded so much stuff –they had like 10 brand new coffee makers or duplicates of many different things. Of course, she and her sister only discovered this after the folks had died.
      But here’s the kicker, she said that her parents had things that she and her sister really could have used-yet they never shared ANYTHING-instead, they opted to leave it all in the garage- unopened (never used.)
      Wow!!!

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      1. Aw that’s too bad, about the duplicates going to waste like that. Btw, re your kids’ preschool stuff? I still have MY kids’ preschool stuff!! My kids are in their 40s!!!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂

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