Do you want a lovely obituary when you die? Then lead a loving life.
One of the hardest things that I ever had to do was write my Mother’s obituary.
Trust me, it wasn’t for lack of content.
No, it had more to do with the emotional turmoil that accompanied the act of writing parting words for my first love.
So, content was not the issue.
The fact is, Mama lived a wonderful life so there was plenty of verifiable substance to cover.
Knowing this, I proceeded to write the obituary and about her longstanding role as “Universal Mother.”
Mama took care of everybody!
To her it didn’t matter if you were 9 or 59+, she made sure you had what you needed.
But, if you acted like a fool, she would cut you to the quick.
Mama didn’t play!
Excuse my digression. 😊
In my writings about Mama, I couldn’t help mentioning that she was hilarious!
I am a witness to the fact that serious people can actually be quite funny!
Most times unknowingly.
Mama was notorious for being a bit devilish- which is actually a term of endearment in the South.
For the uninitiated, “devilish,” means “playful” in a practical joke-ish kinda way.
In addition to that, I felt it was important to stress in the obituary that Mama was fiercely protective of those she loved; and of ANYONE, strangers included, who had been abused or needed help.
No doubt, Mama was a calm shelter for those who needed it most–and I wrote about that too.
Some time later, at Mama’s Celebration Of Life, someone commented, “What a lovely obituary.”
Honestly, it was a lovely obituary because she had lived a loving life.
It was, indeed, a life well-lived.
So, the next time you partake in woeful fantasies about how you wish to be remembered after you’ve died, consider evaluating what you’ve done before and what you are doing right now.
How have you treated others?
Were you compassionate when it mattered most?
Who have you helped?
It’s easy to be kind to family, friends and people who meet silly prerequisites.
How about being kind to people that you don’t know particularly well, or who fall outside of your comfort zone?
If you find yourself missing the mark as it pertains to these questions, then, in the words of one of my oldest and dearest friends, govern yourself accordingly.
Today, you can create your own life well-lived.
PASS IT ON!
LadyG loves YOU!