Racism and Prejudice in Daily Conversation

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Racism no longer exists!

-Some Earthling from 7510

Astute 1960s music aficionados will recognize the aforementioned, 7510, as the year that Zager and Evans said, “If God’s a-coming, he ought to make it by then…”

That’s right, over 50 years ago our dear singers predicted that 7510 would be the year of Divine judgment!

Personally, I believe that we are being judged daily–by our own conscience.

That’s assuming that we have one.

Anyway, I find it kinda eerie that while Zager and Evans titled the song, In the year 2525, they don’t say much else about that year–other than to wonder “if man is still alive…”

In fact, it appears as if they simply opted not to complete their thesis about what 2525 might bring.

I shudder at the thought!

Anyway, this post has very little to do with that song other than to illustrate how much farther, as a society, we have to go in order to become more advanced in our thinking; I pray we get there before 7510 because 2525 is beginning to look like a freaking wash!

Ok, so after watching and listening to a whole lot of people talking about racism these days, I decided to put in my proverbial two cents by offering a couple of suggestions on how to avoid racist/prejudice talk in your daily conversations.

I might even throw in a little story.

And so…

In essence, if you are interested in having a genuine conversation on race–or anything else–with black folks, please refrain from saying any of the following:

  1. “Racism does not exist.”
  2. “You’re being overly sensitive.”
  3. “How do you know <insert complex, intellectual, technical, little-known, sophisticated topic here>
  4. “How did he/she/they get a better grade than I did?”
  5. “How did she/he/they get that job, house, car, thing?”
  6. “Family doesn’t mean much to Black people” (Said by some foolish ass congressman, very recently.)
  7. “That’s not racism!” (An easy out for people who are uninterested in learning about racist remarks and behaviors.)

This list is not exhaustive.

While some of the above points are blatant, others are very subtle yet highly offensive. In fact, I’m NOT even going to include the REALLY blatant shit that people say.

That said, I am willing to offer a more slick example of how prejudiced beliefs and attitudes slither into a daily conversation. (This is an example of my 3rd point from above)

For your consideration:

Once upon a very recent time, LadyG was having a conversation with a couple of co-workers about travel.

During the conversation, Lady G stated, “I’d like to go visit Findhorn someday.”

To which one of the co-workers, a white female who fancies herself to be very well versed on just about every damn thang, inquired, “What is Findhorn?”

To which LadyG replied, “It’s a beautiful community in Scotland where they have been known to grow gigantic vegetables by working closely with spiritual beings that inhabit the land.”

Before LadyG could complete her sentence, her co-worker had whipped out her iPhone, looked up Findhorn, and was instantly amazed at how accurate LadyG was in her description of the joint.”

“Hmm,” dear co-worker responded, “And how do you know about that?”

To which LadyG shot back, “I’m just nosey as hell.”

-THE END

Granted, the average person in Georgia has no clue what Findhorn is–never mind where it is.

Hell, some of you are also probably wondering how I knew about it.

Let’s just say that I am an avid reader who loves to learn about new people, places and things.

At any rate, it’s not so much that she asked that question, it’s more the way she asked the question.

It was clear to me that she didn’t think it was possible for me to have any knowledge about a subject that she did not already know about.

Who was I to know so much about something that she had never heard of?

Now, I can hear someone in the ethers saying, “How is that racist, she’s just a know-it-all.”

True dat!

She definitely was a know-it-all!

But here’s the thing…do you think she would have asked a white woman or man the same question– with the same kind of undertone?

Would she have been completely amazed that another white person could know about Findhorn?

I’d wager that she would not have asked another white person that question–at least not in the same way.

She asked me with an air of suspicion–disbelief.

Now, if, in fact, she had asked another white person, it would have been out of genuine curiosity–a “tell me more” kind of situation.

Trust me, as a black woman, I know the difference.

I’ve experienced this, or something like it, more times than I can properly count.

Seriously, I could give you a thousand other examples; including the one where the white male student asked my Political Science professor how I got a better grade than he did on an essay exam. It should be noted that the professor, who was also white, was the one who told me what the guy said.

Oh! What about the time a white co-worker told me that I was not “black… black.” By that, she meant that I was not like “regular black people”–whatever that is.

Or, the time my white Biology professor told me that I was one of only two black students to ever get an A in his class. Why did he feel the need to tell me this?

Oh yeah, what about the white English professor who stopped me after class one day to ask where I was from because she could tell from my writing style that I couldn’t be “from around here.”

Whew chile…it’s tiring y’all!

So, I think I’ll stop here and encourage anyone who is ready to have a polite and meaningful conversation about anything that I mentioned in this post to drop down in comments so we can chat.

42 thoughts on “Racism and Prejudice in Daily Conversation

  1. I think if I were black, the one that would get me closest to punching the speaker in the face (which is really something for this pacifist who abhors violence in any form) would be the pathetic “All lives matter!”

    Grrrr!!

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    1. Yes, and the thing is this, it’s given that all lives should matter but if history and current events are any indication, black lives don’t matter—thus we’re forced to shout that our lives do matter.

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  2. As I approach my 70th year as a native of Wales with a welsh lineage which goes back to at least 12th century. these things I know to be true.
    There are good people, there are middlin’ people and there are full blown jerks across the whole Human spectrum.
    If you judge a person by their skin, accent or gender you are of the last category and my opinions of you will not be voiced in polite company.
    The politest thing I could say to those in the USA would be;
    ‘I don’t recall any mention of White folks following Christ in His Ministry, nor do I suspect there were any creamy skins in David’s Line, either,’
    After that the conversation would go down hill.
    Take care all of you guys
    Love to you all
    Roger

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    1. LOL!!! And LadyG of Mathilda hath proclaimed that Roger, as we say here in the Black community, just dropped the mic!!!!
      That’s a huge compliment to you my friend!
      You hit the nail on the head!
      Most people don’t even recognize that the terms “white” and “black” are social constructs that served an accursed function in these United States.
      As I recall, nobody was “white” or “black” in their home country.
      That whole thing is an American creation–I’m sure someone will correct me if I am wrong.
      And, by the way, you are right, jerks come in all sizes, shapes and colors.
      Love to you my friend ♥️

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      1. Thanks Gwin, I’m taking that compliment and keeping it safe in my heart 🙏
        Rant warning…Rant warning…Tropical Storm Level…
        I maintain the only respectable intolerance is the Intolerance of Intolerance, no matter where, who or when.
        Sadly it is a universal flaw in Humanity and festers all over the world, I could depress an audience with myriad examples from all nations and cultures. Though in the USA a part of the White Community have manufactured this into a monstrous hypocrisy with their babble about ‘freedom’, ‘rights’ and ‘constitution’ when their own ignorance of history, and religion is tragic. But they are not the only ones; over here in the UK, the Left Wing have a very loud section who display a mirror image of MAGA when it comes to intolerance ,mis-readings of history and its own very carefully selective bigotry.
        I get really grumpy about the whole business and my family are never sure whether I am joking or not when saying ‘The trouble with Stalin was that he over-thought the problem way too much’.
        So I write my books:
        Karlyn’s approach is simple: ‘You hit me. I hit you and if I am in a good mood, you will be allowed to get up,’
        Arketre is more me when she steps down the wrong road ‘It’s all about retribution,’
        Trelli is: ‘Err..slow down folks. We got to be careful here…Looking at you Arketre Beritt’ (Although that does not make her a soft touch, like the time she is kidnapped by the criminal outfit of the series for being a nuisance and they hope to just keep her out of the way….Only they don’t, she breaks out in style with a few minor punches and a very stern warning not to do that again…they ‘see her point of view’ and alliances are formed)
        OK rants over.
        You and yours take care Gwin 🙏💐🌸🌺🌼🌷

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        1. And, I might add, as a proud member of The House of Mathilda, I give you the floor to rant anytime you like over here at Seek The Best Blog–and I DARE anyone to challenge you; although with Karlyn, Arketre and Trelli 🌹surrounding you, you are always protected!

          But Roger, I do have a question though, I don’t remember us talking about this over the years– I am curious about the names given to these three. They are gorgeous names. Do you mind sharing how they came to be–or is that a closely guarded secret?

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        2. Thanks Gwin, no doubt I will take you up on your kind offer. Thank you Lady Gwin of Mathilda.
          Oh the girls’ names. Glad to oblige. In order of how they turn up in the books:

          Karlyn Nahintee: Karlyn was washed up on a shore with no memory of where she came from. Being a quirky girl with an opinion of who she should be, she invented her name. Since she is good at setting things on fire I took Irish Celtic words for ‘Fire’ and ‘Maid’ and mangled them about, my reasoning being this happens in history a lot. A character in the books who is formed around the Irish comments on what her name might mean, but says “if she said this to anyone of my homefolk they’d think she had rocks in her head and swollen tongue,”

          Arketre comes from a place which is a mix of the American West & South. ‘Arketre’ sort of grew out her being a bit of a rouge when not on duty and tough medic soldier when on duty, so three hard syllables ‘Ar’ / ‘ket’ / ‘re’. ‘Beritt’ grew out of ‘Beret’ as worn by elite army units (although she wears a battered cowboy hat). That said she has a tender and caring side to her, hence Karlyn calling her ‘Flaxi’ (blonde hair). I swap her name around a lot depending. So when she’s soldiering described as ‘Beritt’, with Karlyn ‘Flaxi’ and Trelli calls her ‘Arketre’ because they are friends.
          ‘Trelli’ came about like this. I wanted one character who was ordinary and wanted to be ordinary but got a power dropped on her. Anyway she is an orphan, left as tradition says on the doorstep of a religious order’s abode; the women there are used to this and raised her, in a caring way, training her up for domestic maid service, and gave her a girl’s name suitable to her ‘class’ in life…In British fiction serving maids were often called ‘Poppy’ or ‘Mary’ or ‘Daisy’ and so forth, thus something similar. Now where she lives in sort of comparable with southern France, so I added a gallic hint to the name (trying saying it and you’ll see what I mean…Although though unlike Karlyn (London) and Arketre (sometime Western/Southern mash-up) I didn’t dare risk having her speak phonetically, brits and French constantly poke fun at each others accents so it would have been just wrong (and impossible to write anyway)…….Towards the end of the first book on the spur of the moment to impress someone (a crime lord) she says her name is ‘Trelyvana Waywanderer’ and finds although she regrets it, can’t shake folk off from calling her that (Except from one guy who genuinely impressed by and attracted to her, for a while calls her ‘Lady Tee’, which she doesn’t object to being a bit partial to him).
          And those are the girls.
          Although it is also likely they actually come from a place far, far on the other side of the galaxy and picked on me to write their adventures. I’ve known them now for so long, that might be the right answer
          Hope that sorts things out for you Gwin…..😀

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        3. I love getting the backstory behind creative works of all kinds.
          People don’t really think about how much thought goes into things like character names and such.
          The combo of Celtic words for Karlyn and the hard syllables for Arketre along with the play on beret is insightful; it gets to the meat of the character. I was so tickled with the long version that Trelli offers (‘Trelyvana Waywanderer’) LOL!!
          And of course, I love that a potential suitor calls her Lady Tee! I LOVE THAT!
          Anyway, thanks Roger! I really do love this. You should consider posting it on your blog–if you haven’t already. I’ll bet it would be a bit hit.🌹

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        4. Thank Gwin, I’m glad you enjoyed that.
          Trelli’s development was fun but needed attention. I didn’t want her to be the one always rescued, nor the ‘saintly’ sort; as Arketre and Karlyn had fallen in love making sure she wasn’t the third wheel, nor outside of the dynamic, as when together the three are at their most formidable AND at the same time being independent. (A lot of re-writing)
          I set up a separate blog for the books ‘The Precipice Dominions’ https://wordpress.com/home/theprecipicedominionsafantasytrilogy.wordpress.com
          where I’m building up a info and insight series of blogs.
          Recently I had fun doing a less than serious marketing run on this blog titled ‘Just for Marketing and Giggles’
          Thanks for your support🥰

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        5. Roger, I came across this article about a “Welsh settlement” in Alabama. This is the first time that I have heard of this tale. From what I’ve read, it has been discredited but it is fascinating–to say the least! Take a glance and tell me what you think. I can’t help noticing the name “Gwynedd” and it’s similarity to my name, LOL!!!

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        6. Hi Gwin.
          Nice read another article about Prince Madoc. It’s one that is fun to think it might have happened, along with the stories of a Native American tribe which spoke a language similar to Welsh.
          There again, ‘somebody’ might have sailed across, made land and sort of merged in. We’ll never be sure.
          Gwynedd (sort of pronounced ‘G-wyn-eth’ ) has an interesting history, suggesting the name comes from an Irish linguistic root meaning ‘collection of tribes’ and some speculation it was settled by Irish about the time the Romans were leaving- say 400AD.
          Actually the more your read the history of these Isles the more you begin to doubt if anyone is pure Scots, Irish, Welsh, English as there was a lot mixing and matching for at least 1,000 years.
          Meanwhile I have to catch up on posts on WP, so expect a reply or two sometime.

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        7. Lol! I knew you’d be likely to know about this story. I was today-years -old when I learned it.
          I admire your knowledge about the Isles. I think of you whenever I see things about it. Thanks for education on the pronunciation of Gwynedd.
          And, you are right about mixing. We did DNA ancestry and we originally got German, French and some DNA from the Isles, but now, as more people test, our ancestry is looking more heavy toward your Isles.
          This is my European breakdown ( as of this moment according to DNA ancestry)
          14% Scotland
          7% England/Northwestern Europe
          7% Wales
          2% Norway
          Who knows what it will show as more and more people keep testing.
          Have an awesome weekend send my warmest regards to Mrs. Sheila.

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        8. Aww thanks Gwin. History is always interesting, my trouble is I keep hoping from one area to another and not concentrating enough. But there are so many interesting times and communities.
          Now you have me thinking about DNA testing and see what turns up. Might get around to that, some day.
          And best wishes to you for these days Gwin, I’ll pass you message onto Sheila.
          (It’s our grumbling and stumbling day to day, as it was the UK’s turn to have the hour shifted on and so lose an hours Zzzzs🥱)

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    1. Okaaay Doc! And it’s racist AF for someone to demand that we explain.
      To me it’s a form of gaslighting.
      Black folks be thinking: I know that you know what I’m talking about but you’ve just decided to try to bait me into a bullshit exercise in academics.

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  4. I love this and it’s so true! A lot of folks are racist and don’t even know they are. It’s so ingrained in them they couldn’t excise it with a razor blade. This made me think about my poem, “I Can’t Describe”… But I know it when I see it! ☺️

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  5. Think – political correctness hit a school over here in Australia and they are no longer allowed to say Mother or Father, just birth Parent and non birth parent. We can’t use the words ‘black or white’ in church incase it offends any one. So technically all are equal in the eyes of Politics so you got your high grades, because you are one brainy gal. Don’t worry about no white trash presuming you are dumb because you are … and she is … So there. P.S. I think I would be called white trash ’cause we live in the Projects oops perhaps I am just TRASH. Bye y’all

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    1. Oh no! You’re definitely NOT trash! LOL!

      Thanks for the funny and insightful response Andrew. It lightens up a complicated topic.
      By the way, I appreciate the compliment.

      So, I think that we often go too far when it comes to “political correctness.”
      We can’t possibly know all of the different ways that people prefer to self identify–nor should we.

      All we can do is open the lines of communication and treat each other the way we wish to be treated 🙏🏾😘

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