Racism and Prejudice in Daily Conversation

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Racism no longer exists!

-Some Earthling from 7510

Astute 1960s music aficionados will recognize the aforementioned, 7510, as the year that Zager and Evans said, “If God’s a-coming, he ought to make it by then…”

That’s right, over 50 years ago our dear singers predicted that 7510 would be the year of Divine judgment!

Personally, I believe that we are being judged daily–by our own conscience.

That’s assuming that we have one.

Anyway, I find it kinda eerie that while Zager and Evans titled the song, In the year 2525, they don’t say much else about that year–other than to wonder “if man is still alive…”

In fact, it appears as if they simply opted not to complete their thesis about what 2525 might bring.

I shudder at the thought!

Anyway, this post has very little to do with that song other than to illustrate how much farther, as a society, we have to go in order to become more advanced in our thinking; I pray we get there before 7510 because 2525 is beginning to look like a freaking wash!

Ok, so after watching and listening to a whole lot of people talking about racism these days, I decided to put in my proverbial two cents by offering a couple of suggestions on how to avoid racist/prejudice talk in your daily conversations.

I might even throw in a little story.

And so…

In essence, if you are interested in having a genuine conversation on race–or anything else–with black folks, please refrain from saying any of the following:

  1. “Racism does not exist.”
  2. “You’re being overly sensitive.”
  3. “How do you know <insert complex, intellectual, technical, little-known, sophisticated topic here>
  4. “How did he/she/they get a better grade than I did?”
  5. “How did she/he/they get that job, house, car, thing?”
  6. “Family doesn’t mean much to Black people” (Said by some foolish ass congressman, very recently.)
  7. “That’s not racism!” (An easy out for people who are uninterested in learning about racist remarks and behaviors.)

This list is not exhaustive.

While some of the above points are blatant, others are very subtle yet highly offensive. In fact, I’m NOT even going to include the REALLY blatant shit that people say.

That said, I am willing to offer a more slick example of how prejudiced beliefs and attitudes slither into a daily conversation. (This is an example of my 3rd point from above)

For your consideration:

Once upon a very recent time, LadyG was having a conversation with a couple of co-workers about travel.

During the conversation, Lady G stated, “I’d like to go visit Findhorn someday.”

To which one of the co-workers, a white female who fancies herself to be very well versed on just about every damn thang, inquired, “What is Findhorn?”

To which LadyG replied, “It’s a beautiful community in Scotland where they have been known to grow gigantic vegetables by working closely with spiritual beings that inhabit the land.”

Before LadyG could complete her sentence, her co-worker had whipped out her iPhone, looked up Findhorn, and was instantly amazed at how accurate LadyG was in her description of the joint.”

“Hmm,” dear co-worker responded, “And how do you know about that?”

To which LadyG shot back, “I’m just nosey as hell.”

-THE END

Granted, the average person in Georgia has no clue what Findhorn is–never mind where it is.

Hell, some of you are also probably wondering how I knew about it.

Let’s just say that I am an avid reader who loves to learn about new people, places and things.

At any rate, it’s not so much that she asked that question, it’s more the way she asked the question.

It was clear to me that she didn’t think it was possible for me to have any knowledge about a subject that she did not already know about.

Who was I to know so much about something that she had never heard of?

Now, I can hear someone in the ethers saying, “How is that racist, she’s just a know-it-all.”

True dat!

She definitely was a know-it-all!

But here’s the thing…do you think she would have asked a white woman or man the same question– with the same kind of undertone?

Would she have been completely amazed that another white person could know about Findhorn?

I’d wager that she would not have asked another white person that question–at least not in the same way.

She asked me with an air of suspicion–disbelief.

Now, if, in fact, she had asked another white person, it would have been out of genuine curiosity–a “tell me more” kind of situation.

Trust me, as a black woman, I know the difference.

I’ve experienced this, or something like it, more times than I can properly count.

Seriously, I could give you a thousand other examples; including the one where the white male student asked my Political Science professor how I got a better grade than he did on an essay exam. It should be noted that the professor, who was also white, was the one who told me what the guy said.

Oh! What about the time a white co-worker told me that I was not “black… black.” By that, she meant that I was not like “regular black people”–whatever that is.

Or, the time my white Biology professor told me that I was one of only two black students to ever get an A in his class. Why did he feel the need to tell me this?

Oh yeah, what about the white English professor who stopped me after class one day to ask where I was from because she could tell from my writing style that I couldn’t be “from around here.”

Whew chile…it’s tiring y’all!

So, I think I’ll stop here and encourage anyone who is ready to have a polite and meaningful conversation about anything that I mentioned in this post to drop down in comments so we can chat.

Rambling Musical Commentary: Gotta Make it For You…Gotta Make it For Me

Join LadyG as she shares off-key singing, storytelling and a few of her favorite soul/R&B jams from 1972.

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What Jesus Are You Talking About?

I wrote this in  2016 but it’s even more relevant today.

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I know this lady who was raised in a very depraved environment.  She, her mother and her siblings were treated as if they were the private property of her ‘father.’

This young lady had been worked, raped and nearly beaten to death.  She was not allowed to go to school so she never learned to read.

Throughout her teen years, her ‘father,’ who had been her main abuser, gave his friends permission to violate her in any number of ways.  As a result, she gave birth to six children; each with a different man. Her father sent several of the children away because he said that it wasn’t his responsibility to feed them.

Sadly, the young lady was never told of their whereabouts. Before long, she and her remaining children suffered the same fate.

This young lady, who had nothing but the clothes on her back and three children in tow, did…

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Rambling Musical Commentary: Three Dusties

Come along as Lady G rambles and sings off-key to a few of her favorite dusties!

Don’t know what dusties are?

Dusties are little known songs from a bygone era.

Anyway…

Never one to miss an opportunity to introduce thoughts that take unexpected twists and turns, LadyG gives you a plethora of non sequiturs along with loud Southern mama laughter !

But isn’t that what a ramble is supposed to be about?

Unscripted foolishness in 3rd person 🙂

Enjoy!

Bonus Jams

A Family Conversation: Trouble We Ain’t Gon’ See

“A Family Conversation” is a storytelling audio series that features weekly discussions between blogging cousins LadyG and Ron Brown on current events along with favorite posts from each other’s blog.

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No matter what happened that’s only once it’s shame on you
You come up in here and do it again then it’s shame on me
Sometimes we be gettin’ in trouble we didn’t wan’ learn or
Sometimes we be gettin’ in trouble we ain’t gon’ see…

-Mystikal

“Bouncin’ Back (Bumpin’ Me Against The Wall)”

This week, the cousins discuss:

“What Time Is It?” written by Ron’s Father, Fletcher Brown, around 1974.

Sadly, it touches on themes that are still very relevant today.

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The Devil?

The Devil.

ANYONE who knows me knows that I used to joke about Facebook being THE DEVIL.

I joked that because I believed it encouraged stalking, lying, jealousy, narcissism and the like.

Don’t get me wrong, I know that Facebook is useful for people who want to keep in touch, raise awareness or distribute important information.

But, sometimes, I wonder if the bad outweighs the good.

Peep this…

When I was in Seattle visiting one of my oldest and dearest friends, we watched a documentary about how a certain political campaign, using a group called Cambridge Analytica, commandeered Facebook to target certain populations with false ads, confusion and other disinformation.

The goal?

To sway them politically and influence voting.

The old scare the shit out of ’em, depress ’em, or piss ’em off strategy!

Timeless!

Sadly, it worked!

Quite a few folks fell prey because they believed what they read.

Hell, they made the ads look and sound convincing enough.

So, for instance, some ads were used to scare people to the polls and other ads were used to make people feel so discouraged and dismissed that they would opt not to vote—they weren’t even trying to get some of these folks to vote for someone else, they were, in fact, trying to get them not to vote at all.

And this was all served up on a nice platter of Facebook!

Currently, the informed public is fully aware of this fuckery, as evidenced by this testimony.

But for those who still need a bit more convincing, check out this article which details the whole evil plot.

Which brings me to my original point…

Who enjoys engaging in evil plots?

Wait for it…

The Devil!

Just kidding…

Hmm…

Now, far be it from me to give you a problem without offering a solution.

That would be RUDE!

LOL!

Here’s the solution to “turn off” political ads on Facebook.

Just click past any pop-up windows in the article.

Frankly, there’s no reason to believe that they won’t start the same shit again this election year.

So, I urge you to turn these ads off for YOUR peace and for the goodness of us all!

We can’t take another four years of this INSANITY!