Love Notes From Lady G: Be Happy

How can I love somebody else
If I can't love myself enough to know
When it's time,
Time to let go.

Be Happy.  Performed by Mary J. Blige. Songwriters: Jean-claude Olivier / Arlene Delvalle / Gilbert Askey / Curtis Mayfield / Sean Puffy Combs / Mary J Blige

**For adult entertainment only.

NOTE: Never let anyone else’s advice take precedence over your own inner guidance or the advice of a professional.

A Family Conversation: Wise and Beautiful Mama

“A Family Conversation” is a storytelling audio series that features weekly discussions between blogging cousins LadyG and Ron Brown on current events along with favorite posts from each other’s blog.
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Mama you’re beautiful

And that’s straight from my heart

Mama you’re wonderful you love right from the start

Mama you are; Mama you are; Mama you’re beautiful to me

Mama You’re Beautiful Performed by: Positive

Source: Musixmatch
Songwriters: Kasey Phillips

Join us this week as we discuss Ron’s post Rhyme Time: She’s a Real Mother for Ya

Listen in as we talk about Jet, Ron’s mom!

Did I mention that she’s my aunt?

LOL, of course I did.

Anyway, in today’s discussion, we talk about Jet’s authenticity, generosity, wisdom, determination and her beauty.

By the way, you can read some of Jet’s writings by going to The Time Tunnel and using search terms “Ron’s Mom.”

Pt. 1: A REAL Giver/Student and Teacher
Pt. 2 : Sharing through writing/Passing it On
Pt. 3 : The Beauty Standard/ Smooth, Cool and Smart

The Math trick that Aunt Jet showed me in 3rd grade 🙂

Greens From Daddy’s Patio: Daddy Over My Shoulder (Week 9)

Even though I’m getting more and more comfortable with gardening, Daddy is always watching over my shoulder.

Whenever I’m working with the plants, he usually says something like…

“Add a little bit of this!”

“Add a little more of that!”

OR

“Not too much!

“That’s enough!”

“Put it over there.”

“Move it over here.”

“You don’t need to do that.”

“Look here bae, do it like this.”

And when I get it just right, he reassures me with a super sweet …

“There ya go!”

I’ve lived my entire life anticipating those words when I’m in the midst of learning new things from Daddy.

If you listen VERY CLOSELY, you can hear him say that to me in previous videos 🙂

Anyway, today, I made more room for my spinach by replanting my rosemary and basil.

Best believe Daddy’s right there watching every step.

Enjoy the video and note that the voice-over near the end is not necessarily synced with the plants that are shown at the time.

On Grandparents, Sages and Ancestors

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Granddaddy (My Dad), circa 2004, watching over my son at a school camping trip. (Excuse the imperfections in the image.)

 

Every time I see folks taking care of their grandchildren, I always make it a point to say to them, “Thank God for Grandparents!”

No doubt, Grandparents can be a child’s guardian angel materialized on Earth.

Trust me when I tell you that I enjoyed interacting with my own Grandparents–when they were alive–and I’ve enjoyed watching my children do the same with my parents.

Grandchildren:  Always be a blessing to your Grandparents, just as they are or were to you!

Ah, but wait, I can hear somebody in the ethers hollering, “But Lady G, I’ve never had a relationship with my Grandparents.”

To that, I say…

Seek the Sages!

Sages are easy to find–if you’re willing to look around you.

Sometimes they are sitting next to you on the bus.

Other times, they are standing next to you at the library.

Or in the line at the coffee shop.

Interactions with Sages need not be unnecessarily long.

Sometimes, Sages offer a quick word of advice or wisdom that can take you ten steps further down the road.

Sadly, many Sages are slipping away in:

Nursing homes

Back bedrooms

Small apartments

Unattended to…

So…

Find the Sages I say!  Talk to them!  Learn their stories! Take pictures of them! Bestow them with accolades!

(It should go without saying that this advice also applies to Grandparents.)

Treasure them…they deserve it!

For tomorrow you will look and they’ll be gone.

Finally, let us not forget…

The Ancestors!

For the purposes of this post, Ancestors are defined as all of the Grandparents, and Sages who have ‘shuffled off this mortal coil’…having ascended to higher realms.

Remember and honor them!

They are watching!

Make them proud!

Love and light to you all!

Lady G 😘💋

Dedicated to My Grandparents:

Mary

Leroy and Annie Maude

And to my Parents, Sages and Ancestors!

Listen to Mama…

 

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Mama throwing serious side-eye!

My 22 year-old son and I are very close.

We always have been.

From the moment he was born, he and I were inseparable.

I can remember turning down plenty of opportunities to go hang out with friends; opting instead to stay home with my baby boy.

People would say, “I know the perfect babysitter.”

To which I would respond with something along the lines of, “Well, I don’t know that person and neither does my son…so there’s that.”

Sounds harsh doesn’t it?

Oh well!

Anyway, suffice it to say, whenever my son (or my daughter) would ask to do things that were borderline ‘iffy,’ I’d think long and hard before deciding whether or not I would allow them to partake.

And, whenever I decided NOT to allow them to do something, I would explain, sometimes ad nauseum,  why I came to the conclusion that I did.

Then I would punctuate that explanation with the following statement, “Baby, you are extremely valuable and you cannot be replaced.”

That said, Mama watched them babies like the proverbial HAWK!

But then…

My son graduated high school and went away to college.

At that point, all bets were off!

He was his own man and I had no control over his choices.

My only saving grace was the fact that I still had influence.

Luckily, my son and I had always been able to talk about ANYTHING…and I mean anything.

He valued my opinion and often sought and listened to my advice.

YAAASSS!

He sought and listened to my advice…

Until he didn’t.

And that’s when I had to come to terms with the fact that this dude was now an adult who was more than capable of making his own decisions.

In short, I needed to fall back!

So nowadays, when he tells me that he’s leaving to go on a tour of the Moon and Mars, I just have to say a quiet prayer, be still, and know that God is watching over him wherever he goes.

Now…

Having said all of that, I recently told my son, “Listen to Mama…but just not too much.”

Friends, I said that because I want him to benefit from my wisdom and experience but not be paralyzed by my fears.

He got my point.

I hope you do too.

But just in case you didn’t…

Remember, whether you are seeking advice from Mama, Daddy, or whomever, use your own discernment.

Take what’s useful and kindly leave what’s not!

***Said the woman who has been white-knuckling her way through motherhood!

LOL!!!

Love and light to you!

LadyG 😘💋

PS:  This is dedicated to my children, R and J, and for ALL of my “babies” in the blogosphere!  

You guys know who you are 🙂

This is also for every parent and child, no matter where you are in the process 🙂