Self-Love Series: A Tribal Investment by Lady G

 

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Please check out this post that my good friend Dr. K. E. Garland asked me to write for her blog’s “Self-Love” series.

Many of you may already know Dr. Garland as the author of The Unhappy Wife.

Well, in addition to that, she is also the Editor of Daddy, an anthology which includes stories written by women about their relationships with their fathers.  Tikeetha Thomas, a well-known blogger on WP is featured in Daddy.

Both of these ladies are fierce in this writing game and I encourage you to check them out, if you haven’t already.

Also, be sure to catch the latest edition of the “Self Love” series as it is written by my dear sister, Michelle, who is also the very talented author of a love poem that I recently read on this blog entitled, “Present Distance.”

You can find Michelle here.

Seriously, check her out! I can assure you that you will NOT be disappointed.

I hope you enjoy my piece.  Let’s discuss it in comments 🙂

PS:  I will continue the poetry readings through Valentines Day.  That said, you will not want to miss my reading of one of the baddest poets on WP, Braeden Michaels!

Love and Light,

LadyG 😘💋💋

 

Have Lady G Read YOUR Love Poem!

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Most of you guys know me by way of ALL OF the words that I string together on this blog.

However, I have often been told that I have a very nice speaking voice.

In fact, my blogging wonder twin, T Wayne, at A Joyful Process once described my voice as dulcet toned.

YAAASSS baby!

I’ve also gotten similar comments about my voice from my “sisters” Michelle at Me, Intimately worded and Dr. K.E. Garland at Kwoted.

Don’t believe me?

Click to play and listen for yourself:

 

 

Dulcet tones?

Muhahahaha!

Boy have I got them fooled 🙂

Anyway…

If you enjoy writing poetry, why not collaborate with me to celebrate the 2019 Valentine’s season by submitting one of your poems for me to read, record and post right here!

To make it happen, simply e-mail your name, poem and blog information to me at ladygflow1@gmail.com by January 30, 2019 5:00pm EST.

Of course, I reserve the editorial right to decline poems that are not aligned with the flow of this blog….which actually gives most sane folks a whole lot of leeway!

So basically, as long as it is not violent, crazy or just plain jibberish..YOU’RE IN!

LOL!

At any rate, please rest assured that if your poem is selected, it will be properly credited and I will most definitely direct readers back to you!

In return, I ask that you link your readers to this blog so that they can hear your masterpiece come to life!

To keep track, we’ll use the tag “ladygvoice”

Love and light,

LadyG 😘💋💋

 

 

 

Fifty Shades of Black

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Mama (Eva) holding Tack, that’s me on the right with my mouth wide open!

 

Random Woman:  Hey Brenda!

Brenda:  Hey girl, how are you?  I haven’t seen you in some years!

Random Woman: I know!  It’s been a long time.

Brenda:  Yes it has, by the way, let me introduce you to my friend, Eva.

Random Woman:  (Very dry, cold and nonchalant) Hey Eva.

Random Woman: (Directly addressing Brenda) Ooh Brenda, your little girl is so pretty, how old is she?

Eva: (PISSED) That’s MY child!

Random Woman: (Slightly Embarrassed but still chilly) Oh, I’m sorry, she just looks more like Brenda to me.

Eva walks off with child (ME) in tow.

Yes friends, my mother, Queen Diva Lady Eva, was tee’d off!

Why, you ask?

Because ‘Ms. Random Woman’ assumed that I was Brenda’s daughter based solely on the fact that we shared the same skin complexion.

She never thought for a moment that I could belong to my mother–who was a shade or two darker.

It simply didn’t occur to her to ask.

Sadly, this type of attitude was nothing new to Mama.  As a child, she had received whippings from a lighter skinned uncle for being “too black.”

Colorism 
col·or·ism
ˈkələrˌizəm/

noun

Prejudice or discrimination against individuals with a dark skin tone, typically among people of the same ethnic or racial group–Oxford Dictionaries
What the Oxford folks failed to mention is that this phenomenon is a ‘carry-over’ of Slavery; having been birthed from the actions of slave owners.
In essence, slave masters created division among their chattel by treating them differently based on skin complexion.
The darker slaves were treated far worse than the lighter slaves.  Because of their color, dark skinned men and women were forced to engage in heavy labor while the lighter skinned slaves were treated better–relatively speaking.
Naturally, the lighter skinned slaves were told that they were superior to their melanin rich brothers and sisters and both groups bought into that belief.
And there we have it!
A lifelong mutual animosity between darker slaves and lighter slaves…which sadly continues with their descendants today–albeit to a much lesser degree.
Come now!
Let’s re-evaluate the scenario that I offered at the beginning of this post.
Notice how dismissive Ms. Random Woman was toward my mother.
She all but ignored her darker skinned ‘sister.’
‘Ms. Random’ never imagined that chocolate Ms. Eva could be the mother of a caramel colored daughter with long pony tails.
Of course, at the age of 3, I was too young to notice or understand the larger implications of this woman’s attitude.
I had no clue what was really going on.
Little did I know, I would continue to experience some form of this lunacy throughout my life as my father’s racial identity was, to the average onlooker, perplexing… to say the least 🙂
Lord, I got all kinds of questions like, “Is your Dad Mexican?”

Puerto Rican?

Cuban?

Arab?

West Indian?

East Indian?

Native American?

And everything in between….

Oh, and then there were the really stupid questions like:

How did your Mom get a handsome man like your Dad?

Ok, that’s when I got rowdy!

All bets were off!

Seriously?  What do you mean?

Do you not realize that you’re talking about MY MOTHER?

You better back the hell up!

I’m sorry guys but that mess really got under my skin!

Oh and if you think things got better as years passed…

Think again!

My Mama often recalled a time when an associate of my Dad’s came by to borrow a drill.

Apparently, he peeked past my Mom, who had answered the door, in order to get a better glance at me and whispered, “That must be Jim’s daughter.”

Mama said, “Yes, and she’s my daughter and we have a son too!”

What an idiotic thing to say!

“That must be Jim’s daughter.”

It rolled right off his ignorant ass tongue without a bit of thought attached to it.

The fact that he knew that my parents had been married for 100 years added insult to injury!

Ah…but here’s an even more egregious example.

One day, back in 2012, I had been sitting in the hospital room with Mama for most of the morning.

Well, this black nurse, who had been in and out, and who had seem me sitting there the whole time, asked, “Has any of her family come by yet?”

What the hell do I look like?

Chopped liver?

Of course I didn’t say THAT but I did say, “Well I’m her daugther.”

Naturally, the nurse apologized.

I thought to myself….Here we go again…after all this time.

Still dealing with issues of color.

Mama caught hell for being too dark and Daddy caught hell for being too racially ambiguous.

Good grief!

 

 

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Daddy and Mama at about age 15

 

Inspiration for this post came from comments between myself and these great bloggers:

Kelley at Gray Suede

Dr. K. E. Garland

Ron Brown 

 

 

 

 

 

Lady G Quickie: On the Move

Not the same girl

 

Get your mind outta the gutter!

As the name indicates, Lady G is always, first and foremost, a lady 😉

And so…

From time to time, I’d like to quickly share whatever I’m currently enjoying without going into full post mode.

You know how that is 😉

Anyway, for all of my neo-soul, acid jazz, soul throw-back fans, this is for you.

“We are on the move” by Zo! featuring Eric Robertson and Phonté.

I love this groove!

The video is reminiscent of The Whispers during their heyday with S.O.L.A.R. (Sound of Los Angeles Records).

Shout out to California natives, Dave and Tareau over at TheCouchSports blog for doing their podcasting thing on I-Tunes!

AND

While I’m shouting out….

Big up to K. E. Garland and her new book “The Unhappy Wife.”

They are on the move!

YAAASSSSS!

 

Video Credit:  The Foreign Exchange

Eric Robertson doing that run and kick thing is killing me!

DEAD!

Holler back in comments 🙂

Enjoy your weekend my loves.

Lady G 😘💋