A Family Conversation: Family Traditions, Beliefs and Superstitions (Part II) On Lucky Black-eyed Peas, Funeral Homes and Hamlets

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“A Family Conversation” is a storytelling audio series that features weekly discussions between blogging cousins LadyG and Ron Brown on current events along with favorite posts from each other’s blog.


Unfortunately, we had to drop the 3rd cousin, Lady L, off to her own devices.

But you know the conversation between Ron and I marched on!

In part II we are talking about:

  • Lucky black-eyed peas and links to Rosh Hashanah, African cowpeas, live-stock, enslaved people and the Confederacy
  • “Throw away” foods during slavery 
  • What the hell?  Ham hocks and ox tail, formerly throw away foods, cost waaaaaay too much these days.
  • Indigenous people working together to farm for food and for healing.
  • When Funeral Homes change into family homes or, even worse, restaurants
  • From cess pools to a waterfalls
  • “Hamlets” in Georgia? Really?

Of course, this conversation was inspired by my post on New Year’s traditions in the South.

A Family Conversation: THREE Cousins Discuss Family Traditions, Beliefs and Superstitions

“A Family Conversation” is a storytelling audio series that features weekly discussions between blogging cousins LadyG and Ron Brown on current events along with favorite posts from each other’s blog.


Happy New Year!

Welcome to the first “A Family Conversation” audio post of 2021.

This post is extra special because one of our other cousins is joining our conversation.

It took some doing to get her to join us so we were very happy that she agreed to round out the chat!

Now… join us as we use my post, Your New Year’s “To Do” List, to talk about:

  • How Ron jinxed Creek 
  • Some very superstitious people
  • Messin’ with folks’ luck
  • Every Southern Mom
  • How “doing” is just as important as “not doing”
  • Dragging trees
  • General sorry-ness
  • How “old” is NOT really “old”
  • Technicalities and clarifications on dirty clothes
  • Our major loss, “The Bon Vivant.”
  • Roy Clark
  • Pepto Bismol and where we got the gift of storytelling

Rest in Peace Uncle Leroy!

Your New Year’s “To Do” List


Alternate Title:  Your New Year’s What NOT “To Do” List!

Like a lot of folks raised in the South, Mama had some STRONG beliefs about what you could or could NOT do on New Year’s Day.

And baby, we all knew to cooperate- or ELSE!

In fact, one of my dearest friends, Gloria, calls me every New Year’s Eve to make sure that she is, as she laughingly states, “compliant.”


So typical of a Healthcare Exec 🙂

Anyway, without further adieu, Lady G shall now act as your personal New Year’s Compliance Officer for 2016-2017!

Here goes…

What NOT to do on New Years Day:

  1. Wash hair ; you are washing someone out of the family if you do.
  2. Wash clothes; Why? See rule 1. (Just to be safe, she extended that to drying clothes as well).
  3. Have a Christmas tree, including any associated decorations, still on display.
  4. Allow a woman be the first person to enter your home after midnight.
  5. If you are in doubt, please contact me, your personal New Year’s Compliance Officer, in comments before proceeding with most ANY action 🙂

According to Mama,  a violation of any of these rules could lead to death, destruction or worse…

By the way, we’re not done…

You must also prepare/procure and consume:

  1. Green leafy vegetables (Collards, Turnips, Mustards or Kale) to attract foldable money for 2017.
  2. Black-eyed Peas for good luck in the new year; some say they are also good for attracting coins.

In addition, you should also have some money (debit or credit cards will not suffice) in your pocket when the new year arrives.  This ensures that 2017 will not find you…for lack of a better word…BROKE!

Remember, whatever you’re doing when the New Year comes in is what you will likely be doing for the rest of the year!

Uh oh….

I don’t know about you but Lady G shall be praying and meditating!


And so…

You have been duly warned!


Seriously guys, this was all in fun!

But you best believe that I’m hedging my bets by getting in compliance 🙂

Happy New Year !!!

Much love and light to you!

-Lady G 😘💋


I’d love to hear any superstitions, rituals, habits or traditions that you and your family adhere to for New Years!

*** “The Flowering Vine” will continue next Friday, until then, catch up by going to the category labeled, you guessed it, “The Flowering Vine.” 




Where is My Shamrock?

shamrock photo


It’s only 9:00 am and my day looks like it’s heading to Crazytown!  If this morning is any indication, I am in for a real doozy!  It all started with elementary Math homework (remember, I have a little one)  then proceeded to a frenzied search for my car keys. Oh, but it didn’t end there!  Hell no!  How about this…I get in the car and it promptly tells me that I am low on fuel.  Lunacy at its best!

I am clairvoyant so I know what you are thinking.  You are thinking that I could have avoided these problems had I been more proactive.  Frankly you are right! Yes, I should keep my car keys in a designated location.  Yes, I could have gotten gas on my way home from the last trip.  Yes, I could have settled homeworkgate last night. However, at this point, all of those solutions are completely academic.  So what do I do here and now? The answer?  I go get my shamrock!

Allow me to explain.  According to DNA ancestry reports, I am 2% Irish.  Clearly, that’s not much at all!  But let me tell you…these Irish grandpappies are VERY vocal for their number!  In fact, they have been chattering in my ears for years.  But, to be honest, all of their yacking likely led me to find, not one, but two four leaf clovers in my lifetime!  While I can’t be sure of a causal link, I have noticed that things usually work out well for me; despite this morning’s events.

Anyway, one day while shopping, I noticed an alabaster kelly green shamrock at a nearby store. It reminded me so much of those lucky four leaf clovers that I found all those years ago.  Needless to say, I immediately bought and kept it close ever since.  Don’t get me wrong, I realize that this shamrock probably can’t really make ‘good’ things happen, but it does remind me to believe that ‘good’ things can happen. Maybe that’s what my couple- two Irish ancestors were trying to tell me 🙂

Now, I need some good things to happen so where’s my shamrock?


*What reminds you that good things can happen?