Lovely Obituaries Come From Well-Lived Lives

One of the hardest things that I ever had to do was write my Mother’s obituary.

Trust me, it wasn’t for lack of content.

No, it had more to do with the emotional turmoil that accompanied the act of writing parting words for my first love.

So, content was not the issue.

The fact is, Mama lived a wonderful life so there was plenty of verifiable substance to cover.

Knowing this, I proceeded to write about her longstanding role as “Universal Mother.”

Mama took care of everybody!

To her it didn’t matter if you were 9 or 59+, she made sure you had what you needed.

But, if you acted like a fool, she would cut you to the quick.

Mama didn’t play!

Excuse my digression. ūüėä

In my writings about Mama, I couldn’t help mentioning that she was hilarious!

I am a witness to the fact that serious people can actually be quite funny!

Most times unknowingly.

Mama was notorious for being a bit devilish- which is actually a term of endearment in the South.

For the uninitiated, “devilish,” means “playful” in a practical joke-ish kinda way.

In addition to that, I felt it was important to stress that Mama was fiercely protective of those she loved; and of ANYONE, strangers included, who had been abused or needed help.

No doubt, Mama was a calm shelter for those who needed it most–and I wrote about that too.

Some time later, at Mama’s Celebration Of Life, someone commented, “What a lovely obituary.”

Well….

Honestly, it was a lovely obituary because she had lived a loving life.

It was, indeed, a life well-lived.

So, the next time you partake in woeful fantasies about how you wish to be remembered after you’ve died, consider evaluating what you’ve done before and what you are doing right now.

How have you treated others?

Were you compassionate when it mattered most?

Who have you helped?

It’s easy to be kind to family, friends and people who meet silly prerequisites.

How about being kind to people that you don’t know particularly well, or who fall outside of your comfort zone?

If you find yourself missing the mark as it pertains to these questions, then, in the words of one of my oldest and dearest friends, govern yourself accordingly.

Today, you can create your own life well-lived.

PASS IT ON!

LadyG loves YOU!

A Family Conversation: Wise and Beautiful Mama

‚ÄúA Family Conversation‚ÄĚ is a storytelling audio series that features weekly discussions between blogging cousins LadyG and Ron Brown on current events along with favorite posts from each other‚Äôs blog.
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Mama you’re beautiful

And that’s straight from my heart

Mama you’re wonderful you love right from the start

Mama you are; Mama you are; Mama you’re beautiful to me

Mama You’re Beautiful Performed by: Positive

Source: Musixmatch
Songwriters: Kasey Phillips

Join us this week as we discuss Ron’s post Rhyme Time: She‚Äôs a Real Mother for¬†Ya

Listen in as we talk about Jet, Ron’s mom!

Did I mention that she’s my aunt?

LOL, of course I did.

Anyway, in today’s discussion, we talk about Jet’s authenticity, generosity, wisdom, determination and her beauty.

By the way, you can read some of Jet’s writings by going to The Time Tunnel and using search terms “Ron’s Mom.”

Pt. 1: A REAL Giver/Student and Teacher
Pt. 2 : Sharing through writing/Passing it On
Pt. 3 : The Beauty Standard/ Smooth, Cool and Smart

The Math trick that Aunt Jet showed me in 3rd grade ūüôā

A Call to All Mothers

 

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Seriously…

Mothers, what kind of children did we raise?
Are we culpable?
It starts at home!
What are our sons and daughters
doing?
watching?
following?
practicing?
listening to?

Oh, and if you are “so called” pro-life and you are NOT moved to secure justice for Ahmaud Arbery then you are, in fact,
DEAD and may God have mercy on your soul!

Maybe the call below will prompt you to get into integrity and act consistently in your beliefs and behaviors.

Think about that as you livestream the Mother’s Day program from your church.

Happy Mother’s Day!

In loving memory of Ahmaud Arbery, Trayvon Martin, and ALL OF THE YOUNG BLACK MEN who have been murdered in cold blood!

This is the type of shit that mothers like me have to worry about every freaking day!

 

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The following text (in green) is the Mother’s Day Proclamation that was written by Julia Ward Howe in 1870.

From what I understand, Ms. Howe was addressing all mothers in reference to the great loss of life that occurred during the Civil War for both the North as well as the South.

Sadly, much of what is written in this proclamation is just as relevant today as it was in the late 1800‚Äôs ‚ÄĒbut for any number of different reasons.

My dear friends, I urge you to read this and reflect.

Arise, then, women of this day!
Arise, all women who have hearts,
Whether our baptism be of water or of tears!

Say firmly:
“We will not have great questions decided by irrelevant agencies,
Our husbands will not come to us, reeking with carnage, for caresses and applause.
Our sons shall not be taken from us to unlearn
All that we have…

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Interview with My Brother Tack (Part 2): The Growing Years

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I am the curve and he is the line.

My brother and I are different, but there is more than enough room in this world for him, me and YOU!

-LadyG

Here is part two of the interview with my brother Tack.

In this video, we discuss lessons from our Daddy, humor and what it was like for him to grow up with LadyG as an older sister.

Enjoy…

Mama and the Balloon Man

 

 

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My brother Tack

This is one of my first posts on the blog and it tells the story of how fiercely protective my mother was when it came to my brother and I.

BTW, I will be featuring my brother, Tack, in an upcoming video, where we will discuss some of his favorite posts on the blog…among other things!

This dude is something else! You’re going to love him!

But for now, please enjoy this flashback…

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balloons-1211008_1920***This post is dedicated to parents who are working tirelessly to advocate for their children’s well-being.  God bless you!

When I was a kid, the month of October bore two special gifts.¬† First, it brought much needed respite from Georgia‚Äôs 200¬į ‚Äėhell hot‚Äô summer days.

And, best of all, it brought the fair!

My friends, I can‚Äôt begin to tell you how much my baby brother and I loved going to the fair!¬† While there, we faced down Ferris wheels, haunted houses, bumper cars, and ‚Äėflying pirate‚Äô ships.¬† One of our favorite rides was the Himalayas!¬† Baby, that thing flung us around and around, forwards and backwards!¬† We lived for the music, flashing lights and the carny/DJ yelling ‚ÄúDo you want to go faster?‚ÄĚ

Yes my dear hearts, it was ALL good in October at the fair…until it wasn’t!

You see, one time, while we were at the fair, my…

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Happy Mother’s Day 2018

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A gift from my children!

Greetings Friends and Family!

Lady G is happily relaxing on this lovely Mother’s Day!

My children surprised me with flowers, candy and brunch!

I also got a fitbit to help me get in shape!

Smile!

No doubt, I am so blessed.

BUT…

I can’t help missing my own mother.

There are so many of us who know that destination all too well.

Alas…it is a place in which we cannot dwell…

Life demands that we move forward and continue to grow; being fully present for our own children and for those whom we love and who love us.

Right HERE…

Right NOW!

Anyway, I pray that you all are doing well and that you are celebrating the mothers in your life… or that you are celebrating your own motherhood!

I miss you guys!

Love and light to you all!

Have a magnificent day and week ūüôā

Please drop by and say hello!

2018 Mother's Day Brunch
Brunch prepared by Lady J and Rod ūüėė

That plate was clean about 5 minutes after this shot was taken…hence the fitbit! LOL!!!

 

The Flowering Vine: More To The Story

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Our Grandparents: ¬†Leroy and Annie aka ‘Mother’ with Lady G’s Son

 

I thought I’d take a second to thank all of the readers who have supported “The Flowering Vine Series.”

Both Ron and I really appreciate your kind comments about our family.

I inserted this picture of our Grandparents, Leroy (Daddy) and Annie (Mother) so that you can see them as they were in later years.

This picture was taken ONE MONTH prior to our Grandfather’s death.

Here’s the story behind the photo.

Basically, my son had just been born a few months prior and something urged me to go visit my Grandparents and take pictures.

While I can’t say that I had a premonition, I can say that I clearly¬†remember my Grandfather saying to me, as he struggled with his cane to rise from his seat, “Whew Bay, Granddaddy can’t haaaardly get around no more.”

 

His¬†rich baritone voice wrapped itself so closely around my heart and I tearfully responded, “I know Granddaddy….I know.”

The next month, he was gone.

Friends, I can’t tell you how much we all miss him. ¬†He was one of the kindest people I have EVER known and he sincerely loved us all so much.

I distinctly remember how he would wait until EVERYBODY, including all of his children, their spouses and his grandchildren had eaten before he would eat.

He’d say, “Did everybody eat? Did everybody have enough?”

Then, he’d pile the¬†leftovers along with some home grown tomatoes and peppers¬†into his favorite bowl.

Boy let me tell you! That bowl of food looked so GOOOOOD!

God knows they don’t make them like our Granddaddy anymore.

Frankly, there¬†is so much more that can be said about both of our Grandparents, and, as long as you’re interested, we hope to continue sharing those stories here.

Anyway, below is a family tree that includes some of the people that you all have come to know and love.

Because our story includes so much information about our biracial heritage, I decided to include a bit of a descriptor under each person’s name.

Note: ¬†The term “mixed race” applies where there is some interracial heritage¬†but the specifics are unknown. ¬†“Recent mixed race” indicates¬†that this person had at least one confirmed white parent.

On a related note, both Ron and I would like to offer a special thanks to two Caucasian cousins who were kind enough to share DNA and Family records in order to help us to confirm information on our Grandfather’s side. ¬†Had they not been willing to step forward a few more of these boxes would have been marked “unknown.”

Also, a BIG thanks to Ron’s Mom (Jet) and my Dad (Jim)¬†for sharing their memories.

Now, let me stop rambling!

Here’s the Tree!

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The Flowering Vine: Notice that there should be a Mr. H and a Mrs. H (LOL!)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Flowering Vine: That Time At Wendy’s… An Audio Episode

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This is a true story.

Allow me to present you with¬†a knock-off mini “radio show” re-enactment of an event that took place at Wendy’s in Eufaula, Alabama—Summer of 1987.

The major players were:

  • Grandma, aka Mother
  • Me, aka Lady G
  • Poor random guy at the drive-thru window

The whole thing was poorly written, poorly voiced and produced on the fly by Lady G.

Enjoy:

Mother and The Wendy’s Drive-thru Sign: ¬†Run time: 1:48 (Not even two minutes)

 

 

 

 

The Flowering Vine: Mother’s Diet, Fashion, and Beauty Tips

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My Daddy and my Grandmother (We all call her Mother)  (1992)

 

Dear Gwin or LadyG or whoever you call yourself when you write,

This is Mother, and I just want to let you know¬†that I’ve been reading those blots that you and Ronnie have and I enjoy them very well.

I’ve also been looking around at other blots and I’ve found people talking about all kinds of things.

So, with that in mind,  I thought I might try writing a blot about how to keep yourself up after you turn 80.

I am hoping that your readers will appreciate this advice as it will stand the test of time.

Now…

Diet:

I keep my meals pretty simple.  You know the doctor said I was borderline diabetic so I have to watch my sugar.  That being the case, I usually eat 2 small cookies with my lunch and my dinner.

Listen now, don’t ever eat sweets¬†between meals ’cause it won’t balance out–your sugar will go too high. ¬†You always need something with it to keep it¬†from shooting up.

Oh and I don’t drink full sugar drinks, I like¬†diet Pepsi with my meals.

 

Fashion:

Always, always, always make sure your pants and skirts have elastic in the waist so you can be comfortable wherever you go.

A good pair of ear-bobs will help you to look nice and neat.

Beauty:

I bathe with Ivory soap and I always put Oil of Olay on my face; it keeps my skin from wrinkling.

If I’m going out, I use some scissors to cut off any stray hairs that crop up on my chin.

Since my hair started turning gray, I’ve been using V05 hair cream to keep it from going yellow.

Gwin,¬†ain’t nothing worse than a head full of gray hair with a yellow cast to it.

Also make sure you use a good sponge roller for your bangs.

Well, that’s it for now.

I hope that some of your readers will find these tips useful. ¬†I’ll go down in the comment section for a little while to answer questions. Tell your readers to begin their comments with “Dear Mother” if they want to talk to me about my blot.

Otherwise, they can talk to you.

Sincerely,

-Mother

 

***Any information contained in this post is for entertainment purposes only.  It is not intended to be used as, usurp or supplement professional medical advice.  Please consult your physician before changing your diet or exercise routine.  

These tips are from a CENTENARIAN…..so there’s that. ¬†By the way, she was 82 years old in the picture above. ¬†Sadly, she passed away a few years ago ūüĆĻ