A Family Conversation: We Don’t Need to Escalate

“A Family Conversation” is a storytelling audio series that features weekly discussions between blogging cousins LadyG and Ron Brown on current events along with favorite posts from each other’s blog.

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Mother, mother

There’s too many of you crying

Brother, brother, brother

There’s far too many of you dying

You know we’ve got to find a way

To bring some lovin’ here today

What’s going on. Marvin Gaye

***Includes Strong Adult Language and Situations

This week, the cousins discuss a 2020 reblog of LadyG’s post, “I’ve Noticed,” from July 2016.

BEWARE! In the 3rd audio (maybe it was the 2nd audio), LadyG gets SIDETRACKED when talking about “bad cops.” Of course this led her down a nearby “rabbit hole.” A relevant topic, but a “rabbit hole” nonetheless.

Anyway…

Before abruptly switching topics, I was planning to make the point that bad cops are not made better through additional training. These officers just can’t fit into the new mold that we desire.

Seriously, we need to totally dismantle and restructure the system of racism in law enforcement that continues to dog the marginalized.

Jesus said, and I’m paraphrasing: Don’t pour new wine into old wineskins.

Derek Chauvin and the structure that supported his ability to don the badge is a prime case in point.

I believe that highly trained new officers, who don’t have all of that horrible history of bias, are a much better investment.

If we can train new soldiers to be both skilled at combat and accountable for their actions, we can do the same thing with new police officers.

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Psychopaths vs Sociopaths:

Psychopaths tend to be more manipulative, can be seen by others as more charming, lead a semblance of a normal life, and minimize risk in criminal activities. Sociopaths tend to be more erratic, rage-prone, and unable to lead as much of a normal life. When sociopaths engage in criminal activity, they tend to do so in a reckless manner without regard to consequences.

From Psych Central

Based on DSM V

The Culture/Problematic 911/Black Cops Too

Black Cops Too II/A Good Cop/Old Dogs/Hellions/3 Soldiers/Turning Point 

Death is Painful/School to Prison//Make America Great/He Killin’ ‘Em/Black on Black

Help Solve it/White Collar Murderers/ Meter Maids/Two Christianities/ A Chaperone

A Deterrent/Overwhelming Numbers/Voter Educate Yourself/Bonus: Axin’ “ing”/Alive Today/Message to Good Cops

60 Minutes Article on so-called “white collar crime”

***FACT CHECK: Horace Greeley was not a candidate in the governor’s race in Georgia 1990! Don’t know where I got that from. LOL

I See YOU!

THANK YOU! Holler if you HEAR ME!

Lady G is doing a global Roll Call of THANKS TODAY!

Just scroll down after you read this:

I can’t fully express how touched I am to see the whole world–people of every race and ethnicity, standing with black folks in the U.S. as we seek justice for George Floyd, Ahmaud Arbery, Breonna Taylor, and for the permanent dismantling of systemic racism in our society.

Flat out! We NEED your help to do it!

Please stay with us!

Y’all are SOLDIERS BABY!

If your country is actively involved in George Floyd protests, and I didn’t call you, please holler at me in comments; tell me what you all are doing over there!

I don’t want to miss anybody!

Either way, I’d love to hear from you in comments!

Lady G LOVES YOU ALL!

A Family Conversation: The Cousins Deal with Sacred Cows

“A Family Conversation” is a storytelling audio series that features weekly discussions between blogging cousins LadyG and Ron Brown on current events along with favorite posts from each other’s blog.

“A Family Conversation” is published on Wednesdays.

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This week, we go IN by delving into Ron’s post, “Sacred Cows make Tastier Hamburgers.”

In his post, Ron offers multiple examples of America’s greatest patriots engaging in healthy critique of their homeland.

Ever hear of George Washington?

How about Abraham Lincoln?

Neither President Washington nor President Lincoln saw our country as infallible and, therefore, exempt from criticism.

Make no mistake, both Presidents, at times, leveled very radical sounding indictments on the country.

In fact, if you didn’t know any better you’d think you were reading the words of a fringe dweller seeking to overthrow the government by any means.

These days, some folks would have us believe that if you criticize America, you are not patriotic.

They say things like, “This is America, love it or leave it!”

First things first, what gives them the right to say that?

Why would folks do that?

Where are folks going to go?

The key point here is that you can disagree with what a country does while continuing to love it.

Just like you do with a spouse, a sibling, parent or child.

This transcends race!

All of us have the right to disagree with, or question our county’s actions, inactions, behaviors and stances.

Now…

A word to the wise, proceed with caution.

This post is NOT for the faint of heart as it is VERY raw and it contains adult language/adult situations. You might get called out if you are aligned with certain factions.

Click here to listen to audio recordings

President Lyndon Johnson quote from “Best Buddies…”

NOTE: RE: “Taxpayers and Looters”

Radio licenses were not free but the fee was very nominal.

I’ve Noticed…

I wrote this in the summer of 2016.
Granted, as Americans, we don’t like things that make us uncomfortable. That said, I’m asking that we lean into that discomfort and engage in some DEEP self analysis.

For animal lovers, like me, I’ll admit that I was very upset with Amy Cooper for the way she allowed her hatred for a man that she didn’t know to cause her to nearly choke her own damned dog to death.

I’m not going to even touch on her willingness to weaponize the police because someone called her on her stuff!

ENTITLED!

Now imagine if Christian Cooper had walked over and pressed his knee on that dog’s neck for almost 10 minutes—-until he DIED!

That’s precisely what happened to our brother, and fellow human, George Floyd!
We need to check ourselves!

Make no mistake, America has decided to host a picnic in a gas station bathroom; voluntarily becoming nose-blind to the persistent stench of hatred and death.

Flat out, until we deal with racism and white superiority/supremacy, America will never get its chance to be GREAT for once!

In fact, it will self destruct!

Please believe me when I tell you that nobody wishes America could become GREAT more than people like me!

God have mercy on us! Christ have mercy on us!
#Rest in Power George Floyd

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Friends, I’d like to chat with you about some things that I have recently noticed.

Before I begin, allow me to warn you in advance that you may or may not agree with any of my observations.

That’s alright with me.

But, hopefully, after you read this, we will still be able to maintain a high level of mutual respect; even if we have opposing points of view.

In my mind, that is one of the hallmarks of civility; don’t you think?

Now…

Let me start by saying that I strongly believe that we ALL matter.  Every single one of us.

EVER-Y-BODY!

However, based on several past and present events, I’ve noticed that some people do not agree with me. Sadly, I have no choice but to draw this conclusion based on the murders of Alton Sterling and Philando Castile; not to mention Trayvon Martin, Eric Garner, Michael Brown…

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I’ve Noticed…

 

 

 

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Friends, I’d like to chat with you about some things that I have recently noticed.

Before I begin, allow me to warn you in advance that you may or may not agree with any of my observations.

That’s alright with me.

But, hopefully, after you read this, we will still be able to maintain a high level of mutual respect; even if we have opposing points of view.

In my mind, that is one of the hallmarks of civility; don’t you think?

Now…

Let me start by saying that I strongly believe that we ALL matter.  Every single one of us.

EVER-Y-BODY!

However, based on several past and present events, I’ve noticed that some people do not agree with me. Sadly, I have no choice but to draw this conclusion based on the murders of Alton Sterling and Philando Castile; not to mention Trayvon Martin, Eric Garner, Michael Brown, Sandra Bland and so on…

To be blunt, I’ve noticed that, to some folks, we, as Black people, don’t matter much at all.

Assuming that this is the case, some of us have felt compelled to respond by attempting to validate or reiterate our value. Unfortunately, others have intentionally decided to misrepresent this validation in order to advance an agenda that is racially divisive.

To be clear, if I were to say to you, “Black lives matter,” recognize that I am NOT saying “ONLY Black lives matter;” I am saying that “Black lives matter TOO.”

To be honest, I don’t even know why I feel the need to clarify that point. Frankly, I find it ridiculous that I, or anyone else, would need to convince another human being that we all have the same intrinsic value?

Are we not an advanced civilization?

Anyway, I’ve also noticed another troubling phenomenon.

In essence, I have observed the tendency for some folks to attempt to deflect attention away from any conversation about the staggering number of deadly interactions between police officers and Black people by pointing to so-called “Black on Black crime.”  They do this in order to imply that Black people are not as concerned when a Black person is murdered by another Black person.  How ludicrous is that?  To be fair, the next question should be, “Why are you concerned about ‘Black on Black crime?’ Are you working to fix it?”

If the answer is, “No,” then the follow-up statement has to be, in the words of Jesse Williams, “Then, sit down.”

To be honest, in most cases, I don’t expect that the answer will be “Yes.”

Now, before I proceed with my next point I’d like to stress the fact that most people are more likely to be murdered by someone that they know or interact with on a regular basis.  That said, Blacks tend to kill more Blacks and Whites tend to kill more Whites and Asians tend to kill more Asians and so on and so forth.

Suffice it to say, we, as Americans, have a major problem with violence –across the board.

With that in mind, I would ask folks to resist the temptation to engage in conversational trickery, and, instead, I’d ask that they take a moment to think more compassionately about what happens to entire families and communities when a police officer, or anyone else, decides to use unnecessary deadly force against another human being.

To bring it home, folks should ask themselves :

What would I do if Philando Castile took good care of my autistic child? How would I explain his death?  Why am I even HAVING to explain his death?

Finally, I’ve noticed that many of us are quick to paint all law enforcement officers with a broad and negative brush stroke –without considering the fact that they have a VERY tough job to do and they are often undertrained and overworked.  To be sure, that’s the kind of thinking that led to the tragic murders of several police officers in Dallas.

It should be noted that I have a special regard for law enforcement; both my father and brother worked in that field.

Anyway, instead of complaining, we need to be sure to vote for folks who will insure that the right people are selected to say the oath and carry the badge. Clearly, not everybody is cut out for such a demanding and stressful career. Trust me, we will continue to see more and more abuse of power cases if we don’t start vetting law enforcement officers more closely.

I don’t know about you but I don’t want to deal with a short tempered simple-minded ass bully carrying a glock.

In addition, once officers are properly vetted and hired, higher-ups need to teach them how to, for example, de-escalate a volatile situation; we all know that it can be done.  Sadly, it seems that de-escalation is more likely to happen when the suspect is NOT Black or Brown.

I’m just sayin!

By the way, it is not lost on me that some police officers have a tendency to ESCALATE an otherwise manageable situation. Again, proper law enforcement training is critical to a relatively peaceful outcome.

Ok, I’ve had my say.  And to be brutally honest, it took me a few days to calm down before I wrote this post.  I didn’t want to run everybody off! LOL!

Please believe that your girl was pissed the fuck off!  But I am a little better now so I’ll go ahead and move on.

But before I go, let me warn you, those of us who refuse to get our act together and move forward in a loving and positive way will find ourselves in a state of extinction.  No system can maintain itself with this level of insanity.

So, I know what I gotta do.

What about you?