As I mentioned in this blog’s birthday post, I’ve been in introspection mode.
Hence, my inactivity on WP.
As a matter of fact, I’ve been involved in some form of deep study, meditation, prayer and contemplation ever since this blog’s inception.
Trust me, there has always been something deeper lurking beneath my tomfoolery!
And I mean ALL. OF. IT!
I’ve spent a great deal of time reading works that span generations, distance and culture. In essence, I wanted to cull and synthesize enlightened concepts from a very broad perspective.
And you know what?
There were several common truths that absolutely permeated seemingly divergent schools of thought.
Ah…but there was one truth, other than love, that continued to leap all the way up into my frontal cortex!
And it was RESPONSIBILITY!
I get it, but follow me now…
What I have learned is that each one of us is personally responsible for our own lives.
Don’t get me wrong, I understand the temptation to dwell on all of the ways in which others have mistreated or abused us…I’ve had my share of both.
But in the end…
It is our responsibility to do whatever we need to do to take our lives into the direction of our choosing.
And to that end, I have been having some great discussions with my closest friends and family about how that might look in our own lives–regardless to the actions or inactions of mother, father, sister, brother, son, daughter, husband, wife, uncle, aunt, cousin, neice, nephew….society and so on.
I think one of my mama’s closest friends said it best…
“Gwin, don’t trust nobody with YOUR life!”
Though she said those words to me many years ago, they now ring with a resonant tone.
I’d like to share a video with you that was sent to me by one of my best friends, Sandra. She and I had been talking about this topic for a long time, so she was knocked off her feet when she stumbled upon this:
Watch the video before it gets pulled! LOL!
Here’s the link just in case!
Love and light to you all!
One day a friend and I were gazing from a large picture window.
I commented, “Wow…look at that beautiful scenery…It’s breathtaking!”
My friend replied, “What scenery?”
That’s just a bunch of trees!”
I didn’t respond.
This morning while cleaning up, I overheard Oprah on TV asking her guest, John Kabat-Zinn, what happens after we die.
I immediately put the dishrag down and turned toward the TV because I wanted to hear this.
Surprisingly, Kabat-Zinn flipped the proverbial script by answering her question with a question.
His question was, “Is there life BEFORE death?”
Okay, for those of you who just woke up, let me try that again.
The man asked the woman if there is life BEFORE death.
He went on to say that he’s known many people who appear to be alive but who have, figuratively, died a long time ago.
Wow! I thought.
I know people like that too!
You’ve seen them!
They’re easy to recognize because they tend to walk around carrying on and on about their reasons for hating, resenting, ranting, railing, worrying, mourning and not forgiving.
Where is the life in that?
Don’t get me wrong, I understand that we’ve all had these experiences/emotions, but there comes a time when we must process them, let them go and begin living life.
If we don’t, we become the walking dead.
If you fear that you may be an animated corpse, consider changing that.
Frankly, it may take professional help to return you to the world of the living.
There is nothing wrong with going that route; in fact, I think it’s admirable.
In the meantime, whether you need to be resurrected or simply reminded, consider living by Paul’s advice to the Phillippians:
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honorable, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.–Phillipians 4:8
Have a beautiful week!
Love and light to you all!
Lady G 😘💋
Without the spiritual world the material world is a disheartening enigma.
– Attributed to Joseph Joubert
What is spiritually true about you?
Does your spiritual truth differ from your worldly truth?
Do you have the capacity to recognize any dissonance?
If so, should you reconcile?
When I was a kid my friends and I loved going to the ‘rich neighborhood’ to look at beautiful houses with large picture windows. I recall peering through those windows and imagining cheerful wives preparing world class dinners for their handsome husbands.
In my mind, the families who lived there had no troubles or worries; just pounds and pounds of pleasure!
After admiring the houses in the ‘rich neighborhood,’ my friends and I would sometimes take a short-cut through ‘the hood’ to get home.
If you don’t know what ‘the hood’ is, go google ‘hood’ images and rejoin me after you have had time to review the results.
At any rate, ‘the hood’ that I am speaking of was exactly two left turns from the tony neighborhood with the big picture windows.
Uh oh, you seem surprised by the proximity of these two polar opposite realms? Don’t be! Believe it or not, my friend Gloria swears that you can always find ‘the hood’ by taking two right turns from any wealthy district.
While I have no way of verifying that this is always the case, it was certainly the case in this story.
Anyway, let’s just say that ‘the hood’ was—DIFFERENT. There I saw frazzled wives asking their dog-tired husbands for a dollar or two. Clearly, this scene was not at all like the one I imagined as I walked through the ‘rich neighborhood.’
Sorry, friends, it had not yet occurred to me that I was comparing real situations to imaginary scenarios. At any rate, in my childish mind, it was clear that in ‘the hood’ there was mostly trouble, big worries and nothing much to be pleased about.
Sadly, after years of conducting this side by side comparison of rich and not so rich, I had come to the misguided conclusion that if you wanted to be happy, ALL you needed was a lot of money and that was all there was to that!
Yeah, like many Americans, I bought into THAT delusion.
Anyhow, as fate would have it, several years later, I ended up attending a high school that had a very diverse socioeconomic population.
If you had surveyed our school’s student parking lot you would have found Jaguars, Mercedes, Buicks, Nissans, Hoopties and everything in between.
Of course, there were also students who came from families who had no car at all.
I used to joke that some of my friend’s parents owned the factory, some managed the factory, some worked at the factory and some couldn’t get hired at the factory!
Laugh if you want to, I am being very serious!
Getting back to the point, as a popular cheerleader, I easily made friends with folks from every economic class and, as a result, I soon learned that many of my ‘rich’ friend’s parents were drunk and fighting and my ‘poor’ friend’s parents were truly enjoying each other’s company (and vice versa).
In short, I learned that you cannot calculate the happiness factor of a family by looking at their bank statement (that’s if they have a bank) or by any other outward measure.
In addition, it finally dawned on me that the ‘cheerful wives’ that I imagined as a child in the rich neighborhood could have been dealing with bankruptcy and physical abuse while the ‘frazzled wives’ that I saw in the hood could have been enjoying relatively happy marital relationships.
So here is the takeaway: Do not make judgments based on exteriors; people are much too complex for that.
Also, do not attach peace, happiness, joy, anger, sadness and pain to financial status. If you do, you will end up leading a very confused life.
Be aware that these feelings are always in a state of flux- and they will take turns grabbing hold of you from time to time regardless of your socioeconomic, ethnic, or educational background.
Your job is to enjoy the good times and find a healthy way to manage the hard times.
Now, detach thyself from all of that mess and go get thine life!