Lovely Obituaries Come From Well-Lived Lives

One of the hardest things that I ever had to do was write my Mother’s obituary.

Trust me, it wasn’t for lack of content.

No, it had more to do with the emotional turmoil that accompanied the act of writing parting words for my first love.

So, content was not the issue.

The fact is, Mama lived a wonderful life so there was plenty of verifiable substance to cover.

Knowing this, I proceeded to write about her longstanding role as “Universal Mother.”

Mama took care of everybody!

To her it didn’t matter if you were 9 or 59+, she made sure you had what you needed.

But, if you acted like a fool, she would cut you to the quick.

Mama didn’t play!

Excuse my digression. 😊

In my writings about Mama, I couldn’t help mentioning that she was hilarious!

I am a witness to the fact that serious people can actually be quite funny!

Most times unknowingly.

Mama was notorious for being a bit devilish- which is actually a term of endearment in the South.

For the uninitiated, “devilish,” means “playful” in a practical joke-ish kinda way.

In addition to that, I felt it was important to stress that Mama was fiercely protective of those she loved; and of ANYONE, strangers included, who had been abused or needed help.

No doubt, Mama was a calm shelter for those who needed it most–and I wrote about that too.

Some time later, at Mama’s Celebration Of Life, someone commented, “What a lovely obituary.”

Well….

Honestly, it was a lovely obituary because she had lived a loving life.

It was, indeed, a life well-lived.

So, the next time you partake in woeful fantasies about how you wish to be remembered after you’ve died, consider evaluating what you’ve done before and what you are doing right now.

How have you treated others?

Were you compassionate when it mattered most?

Who have you helped?

It’s easy to be kind to family, friends and people who meet silly prerequisites.

How about being kind to people that you don’t know particularly well, or who fall outside of your comfort zone?

If you find yourself missing the mark as it pertains to these questions, then, in the words of one of my oldest and dearest friends, govern yourself accordingly.

Today, you can create your own life well-lived.

PASS IT ON!

LadyG loves YOU!

A Family Conversation: My Brother’s Keeper

NOT Ron’s brother and NOT Ron! Just some random little cute boys 🙂

“A Family Conversation” is a storytelling audio series that features weekly discussions between blogging cousins LadyG and Ron Brown on current events along with favorite posts from each other’s blog. Warning: There is adult language used…mostly by LadyG 😊

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Black Brotha, I love ya,
I will never – try to hurt ya
I want ya, to know that,
I’m here for you, forever true

Songwriters: Raphael Saadiq / Robert Ozuna / Harold Lilly Jr / Glenn Standridge / Angela L Stone
Brotha lyrics © Universal Music – Careers, Emi Blackwood Music Inc., Ugmoe Music, Uncle Bobby Music, Soul Insurance Songs

Today, the cousins discuss Ron’s post, Am I My Brother’s Keeper?


Pt 1
My brother’s keeper
Ben and Fred: Childhood foes Adulthood friends
Little cousin crushes/Big cousin protectors
Proverbs and double teaming ‘em
Us and them
Leaving on that slingshot tree to Georgia pt 1

Pt 2
Leaving on that slingshot tree to Georgia pt 2
Mr Wynn, The Roller and The Ripper
My brother is the smart one
Sawdust, planks and sweeping ‘round your own front door
You got the ISH twisted on my gay friends

Find a fool, leave a fool?
Are you boxed in?

Pt 3
Anti-Everything is Anti-Christian
One John and Two Corinthians
Loving God but not your brother
You just might be a murderer
Family Factions
Closer than Twins 

Scriptural References from the audio

  • Proverbs 17:17
  • Matthew 7:35
  • 1 John 4:20
  • 1 John 3:15

A Family Conversation: Ron Brown and LadyG Discuss Musical Passings, Facebook Shout-outs and Winning at all Costs

 

“A Family Conversation” is a storytelling audio series that features weekly discussions between blogging cousins LadyG and Ron Brown on current events along with some of our favorite posts from each other’s blog.

“A Family Conversation” is published on Wednesdays.

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In today’s audio, Ron and I are talking about my recent blog post “Did we Slip?” 

As usual, we got a bit off task when we started talking about recent deaths in the musical industry. During this tangent, I had to reassure Ron that Andre 2000 3000 had not decided to join our dear Little Richard and the rest of the saints in the “upper room.”

That, was a different Andre.

May he rest in peace.

At any rate, we also lamented over the fact that the late Queen Diva Betty Wright had recently been featured on “Unsung” which appears to have a high number of post-show, er…uhh..transitions, shall we say?

As I said before, it’s not the cause but it sure looks like a correlation. LOL!

In the words of Ron Brown, “Unsung? Uninterested!”

Rest in POWER Queen Diva Wright🌹

No, seriously, I actually love that show.  They do an awesome job of showcasing treasured performers who should have received much more recognition and fanfare than they actually did.

I urge them to keep up the good work.

And now…

Here’s the fun part…

We gave a few shout-outs to some of Ron’s fabulous Facebook friends.

I don’t have a Facebook page, so we did NOT shout-out any of my Facebook friends. LOL!

Anyway…

On a deeper note, Ron moved the needle forward by questioning whether or not I believe in alternate or parallel universes.  He also wanted to know what inspired me to write the post. He wondered if I think we slipped…

Frankly, while I can neither confirm nor deny that we have “slipped,”

Outward appearances would suggest that we might have.

What do you think? 

Be sure to chime in. 

Note:  Since you already know where to find me, be sure to look for Ron here in category “Ron’s Time Tunnel or at Time Tunnel : brownsemts.com

Ron, are you ready?

Let’s go!

 

Pt 1 Musical Passings and Shout Outs

 

Pt 2 Winning at all costs

 

 

 

 

 

A Family Conversation: Ron Brown and LadyG Discuss the Cool Uncle’s Story

 

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Cool Uncle aka Daddy (Sembach Airbase 1965)

“A Family Conversation” is a storytelling audio series that features weekly discussions between blogging cousins LadyG and Ron Brown on current events and featured blog posts.

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“My uncle was as cool as a ’65 Thunderbird!”

-Ron Brown

Yep, that’s precisely how Ron describes my Daddy’s vibe from his younger days as a MP in the United States Air Force.

Folks said he was as cool as a cucumber…

A tall drink of water…

A pretty redbone…

Clearly, LadyG loves a good cliché

LOL!

All that aside, Ron’s cool uncle tells some awesome tales from his post-military days working on the railroad in the late 1960’s through the late 1990’s.

And so…

We invite you to join us in today’s sessions as we talk about Ron’s cool uncle (my Dad) RailroadConductor67’s post, “Santa’s Helper.”

As usual, Ron and I often found ourselves sidetracked!

Our conversation quickly galloped from Lysol to Clorox to wild game to storytelling where it crashed, head on, into Rickie Lee Jones.

But it gets better considering the fact that Rickie Lee wasn’t supposed to be a part of the dialogue.

AT.

ALL!

(Warning, a shift from first to third person is coming up so that I may distance myself from “LadyG”)

Yeah, so, you see, it all started when LadyG went on this tangent about Tommy Lee Jones, whom she thought was named Rickie Lee Jones.

Just so you know, Rickie, the female singer, should NEVER be confused with Tommy, the male actor.

They aren’t even kinda the same.

But of course, LadyG cannot be bothered with “facts.”

And, if you stick around to listen to the part 2 audio in this post, you will hear this for yourself.

Anyway…

Remember, you can find my Daddy, Ron’s cool uncle, here under category:  “True Railroad Stories”

You can also find Ron Brown under category “Ron’s Time Tunnel” and at his blog “Time Tunnel” 

Audio does includes some adult language

Part 1 Run time: 30 minutes

Part 2 Run time: 25 minutes

 

Patio Garden: Listen in as Daddy teaches me how!

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***Important Note: 

Daddy and I purchased the seeds for our patio garden back in late January/ Early February of this year. 

We had planned to get started with this project much sooner.

But, life happened, and one day in mid February, out of nowhere, Daddy collapsed and had to be rushed to the hospital. 

As a result, he spent some time in the ICU. 

But thank GOD, he was released ONE WEEK after his emergency admission date. 

God was with him the entire time!

He was truly blessed and so were we!

We thank every doctor, nurse, assistant and therapist involved in his care.

Special thanks to my son and daughter who were with him when he collapsed.  They took immediate—lifesaving action.

Remember, in an emergency, it is best to call 911 because they bring help; they are NOT just there for the ride! 

They can make ALL the difference between living and dying!

Thank you to those first responders (Paramedics, EMTs and Firemen ) who arrived on the scene to care for my Dad.

Also, special thanks to the anonymous witness who called 911 seconds before my daughter did!

That said, after spending several weeks in physical and occupational therapy, Daddy is now recovered.

No doubt, we lost some time starting our gardening project, but his well-being was much more important to me.

AND NOW……

Enjoy the post and the video!

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I think it was 2017 when I first revisited a recurring idea of setting up a patio garden.

Sadly, Covid-19 has recently come to town and highlighted, among other things, weaknesses in our food supply chain.

As a result, you can best believe that I am now moving this project to “on fire” status!

I’m dead serious!

Anyway, a critical piece to this garden project included having my daddy teach me how to set it up—mainly because that dude has a…

Mint

Jade

AND

Emerald

Green thumb mix!

His daddy taught him.

I’m a Georgia girl, so frankly, as far back as I can remember—and I am about 50 :), my dad, who is a native of Alabama, maintained a garden in our backyard.

He kept that practice up for years!

Later in life, maybe 15 years ago, he transitioned to apartment living, and continued gardening on a smaller scale.

Neighbors, who passed by his patio, would ask, “Hey man, how do you grow such beautiful greens?”

He’d just smile and offer some form of pleasant response and continue on with tending his “crops.”

And when the crops were ready to be harvested, mama made sure to cook them up just right!

Queen Diva Eva!

YAASSSS!

Now then,

Let me be frank, there is NO way in hell that my dad would consent to appearing on camera so I had to secretly record the action!

God knows if he reads this….that’s my ASS! 

Oops!  Did I say that?

Forgive me Daddy!

That said, I am going to post an audio of him supervising my steps toward establishing our little family garden along with a short video and some pictures.

Forever the conductor!

But he’s cool about it

Anyway…

Enough of my rambling.  Check out the video.

LadyG loves YOU!

*** WARNING:  This video contains strong Southern accents so may the peace of the Lord be with you if you are not used to it!  A bit of translation is included 🙂

Comment on your experience with gardening, or if you’d like to leave a tip!

Check out Daddy’s railroad stories by going to category: “True Railroad Stories.”

*See pictures of one of his gardens in the first post I did about his gardening here!

Back Together Again! Ron Brown and LadyG

 

Greetings!

I just wanted to step back on the blog after a long hiatus to check in with you guys!

I have truly missed you all, and I want you to know that you were never far away from my heart.

So, let’s talk about the title of this post…

Today marks an exciting new beginning!  To be specific, my dear cousin Ron and I are planning to do several collaborative projects that will involve writing, shooting videos and possibly podcasting.

Many of you will remember our collaborations during the early days of this blog.  In fact, Ron is featured here under the category “Ron’s Time Tunnel.”

He is also heavily featured, along with your’s truly, under the “Flowering Vine” category where we detail our Southern roots; not to mention the complexities of race.

For those of you who do not know, Ron and I are first cousins.  His mother and my father are siblings.  And, frankly, the “Flowering Vine” is a great place to start for folks who are interested in getting to know our family.

But, I digress….

Just know that Ron, a veteran of The United States Air Force, is a magnificent writer and storyteller who has his own blog.

In addition to the writing that he does there, he recently completed his Master’s degree.

YAAAAY and congratulations!

Suffice it to say, Cuz has been BUSY!!!!

Anyway, today, I am so happy to present a video of Ron speaking at his church during a Friends and Family Celebration for Black History Month.

Now, before we proceed, I must inform you that the video was recorded on a cell phone and it is a bit grainy…Not to mention the fact that I had to crop out a couple of beautiful church hats!

LOL!

Hey!  Speaking of church hats, Ron wrote about those magnificent adornments in this post.

Moving on!

Despite the technical constraints, I’d like to take time to thank my cousin, Aleshia, Ron’s sister, for recording the festivities.

NOW…

Here’s the video and I hope you enjoy it!

Please feel free to comment.

Love and light, LadyG 😘💋💋

 

 

 

My Cousin’s Appointment to the Department of Air Force Senior Executive Service

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Alphonso Thomas and LadyG

So, I could have started by mentioning the fact that his name is Alphonso Thomas, but I was compelled to be a bit more “possessive” in my approach 🙂

It made you look, didn’t it?

Anyway…

I had the great honor of being invited by my cousin to witness his official induction ceremony into the Department of Air Force Senior Executive Service!

Say what?

You don’t know what the Senior Executive Service is?

No worries, I didn’t know what it was either…

However, that is no longer the case.

Apparently, it is a RARE and GREAT honor.

Now then…

I have to say that during the ceremony, I was amazed to learn of Alphonso’s many accomplishments during his service as an officer in the Air Force, and later, as a civil servant.

Suffice it to say, he has racked up quite a few outstanding achievements. Most of which, I can barely understand, but I will say that it involves missiles, bombers and some other such wizardry that my mind can’t quite comprehend.

It’s alright though…most cousins don’t really talk shop….

AND

I THANK GOD

FOR

THAT!

LOL!!

Trust me when I tell you that Alphonso has to knock it down about 20 levels whenever he talks to me.

By the way, my cousin is also well known for his skills on the saxophone!

Actually, music is his first love!

He even released an album a few years back.

No doubt there is a Youtuber out there who has posted it without his permission… and if I can find it, I’m also going to publish it without permission!

LOLOLOL!!!

Anywhats…It is important to note that Alphonso also studied at Berklee College of Music in Boston, MA!

Excuse that musical digression, but it’s hard to stay focused on one thing when it comes to this Masters degree having Electrical Engineering Saxophone player.

LOL!

So…if you landed here and you are obsessed with saxophone playing electrical engineers who are also members of the Senior Executive Service,

YOU

HIT

THE

JACKPOT

TODAY!

To that end, please check out this little video that I put together about Alphonso’s background in the military and highlights from his appointment into the Senior Executive Service.

FYI:  While working on this video, I learned that if you are not familiar with a given subject matter, you will most assuredly sound ridiculous should you choose to narrate about it.

Please accept my apologies in advance!

If that statement doesn’t make any sense to you now, it will become crystal clear after you listen to me vocally labor over Alphonso’s vast bio!

LOL!

But it’s all love!

Please enjoy the video, it’s a little more than 7 mins long.

 

Told you I was going to lift the video below! LOL!!!  It was disabled by the video owner!  LOL!  The owner?  Yeah..right! LOL!!!!

You’ll probably have to google it 🙂

Mama and the Balloon Man

 

 

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My brother Tack

This is one of my first posts on the blog and it tells the story of how fiercely protective my mother was when it came to my brother and I.

BTW, I will be featuring my brother, Tack, in an upcoming video, where we will discuss some of his favorite posts on the blog…among other things!

This dude is something else! You’re going to love him!

But for now, please enjoy this flashback…

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balloons-1211008_1920***This post is dedicated to parents who are working tirelessly to advocate for their children’s well-being.  God bless you!

When I was a kid, the month of October bore two special gifts.  First, it brought much needed respite from Georgia’s 200° ‘hell hot’ summer days.

And, best of all, it brought the fair!

My friends, I can’t begin to tell you how much my baby brother and I loved going to the fair!  While there, we faced down Ferris wheels, haunted houses, bumper cars, and ‘flying pirate’ ships.  One of our favorite rides was the Himalayas!  Baby, that thing flung us around and around, forwards and backwards!  We lived for the music, flashing lights and the carny/DJ yelling “Do you want to go faster?”

Yes my dear hearts, it was ALL good in October at the fair…until it wasn’t!

You see, one time, while we were at the fair, my…

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Self-Love Series: A Tribal Investment by Lady G

 

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Please check out this post that my good friend Dr. K. E. Garland asked me to write for her blog’s “Self-Love” series.

Many of you may already know Dr. Garland as the author of The Unhappy Wife.

Well, in addition to that, she is also the Editor of Daddy, an anthology which includes stories written by women about their relationships with their fathers.  Tikeetha Thomas, a well-known blogger on WP is featured in Daddy.

Both of these ladies are fierce in this writing game and I encourage you to check them out, if you haven’t already.

Also, be sure to catch the latest edition of the “Self Love” series as it is written by my dear sister, Michelle, who is also the very talented author of a love poem that I recently read on this blog entitled, “Present Distance.”

You can find Michelle here.

Seriously, check her out! I can assure you that you will NOT be disappointed.

I hope you enjoy my piece.  Let’s discuss it in comments 🙂

PS:  I will continue the poetry readings through Valentines Day.  That said, you will not want to miss my reading of one of the baddest poets on WP, Braeden Michaels!

Love and Light,

LadyG 😘💋💋