Save Money | Make Your Own | Mango Smoothie

Mango smoothie made for waaay less than you could buy it!

Save your money and make your own smoothie.

Seriously, smoothies are so easy to make!

Why would you spend nearly five dollars on something that you could make in an instant?

Honey, save that money for something else!

Once you make an initial investment for a good blender, all you need to do is freeze some fresh fruits or buy frozen ones, put them in the blender with your favorite medium–which could be juice or milk (here, I used mango nectar and oak milk), then blend the whole thing together!

Et voila!

You’ve saved a ton of money and prepared your own smoothie–okay, not a ton–but you know what I mean!

And when you’re ready, grow your own food then prepare it yourself.

Stop depending on someone else to grow and cook your food!

You got this! Do it for yourself and for those who can’t.

My Jams ’83

My day one peeps will remember this series from a few years back where I share my life story via my favorite songs.
Recently, I did an audio series based on these posts called “Rambling Musical Commentary.” Lately, I’ve noticed, based on the analytics, that these posts have a pretty large viewing; therefore, I will be picking that series back up starting with 1980 on Sunday, April 18th.
So, stay tuned and check out other “My Jams” and “Rambling Musical Commentary” posts by going to the right panel and clicking on those titles in categories.
Meanwhile, enjoy a reblog of My Jams 1983!

Be forewarned!

There be Adult language afoot! LOL!

Seek The Best Blog

Cheerleading shot of Gwin

Hey, it’s good to see you!  Boy have I got a lot to catch you up on!  I’m so sorry that I haven’t been keeping you posted on all the things that’s been going on.  Can you believe that we’re almost at the end of 1983 and I haven’t really told you anything new?

Well, I guess I better do like Lewis Carroll said, “Start at the beginning, keep going and when you come to the end, stop.”

So let’s start at the beginning.

Do you remember my Uncle Willie? You know the one who lives in Chicago?  Well he died back in March.  Nobody saw it coming because he was kinda young.  They say he was sick with pneumonia, then he just had a heart attack–out of nowhere– and died.

We didn’t see him much but I do remember the time me and my cousins were jumping on the…

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A Family Conversation: Before We Stop At Willoughby

“A Family Conversation” is a storytelling audio series that features weekly discussions between blogging cousins LadyG and Ron Brown on current events along with favorite posts from each other’s blog.


Contains adult language


In today’s audio, the cousins are talking about:

  • Too much stuff
  • Goodwill is sick and tired of that green vase!
  • A Stop at Willoughby. Spoiler Alert!
  • The killin’ part (a saying from the other LadyG!)
  • Have pride
  • NOTE: The conversation takes a hard left on education and equity
  • Worker bees and mules
  • Once again, there’s something off about “the dream”


Related Conversations and Links

AFC: Waiting on The Dream

Why Waiting for “the best circumstances” is a bad idea

The Time Tunnel (Ron’s Blog)


Tune In next Friday for the next edition of AFC: “Waiting for That Ship To Come In

Sexually Inappropriate and Harassing Behavior During Daily Conversation

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3/16/2021 6:35pm EST: Updated with a doozy of an example that I forgot about.

Note: Contains sexually explicit language

Excuse the typos, I needed to get this conversation out on the floor real quick!

If you read my recent post on Racism and Prejudice in Daily Conversation, you’ll remember my observation that Zager and Evans’ song, In the year 2525, didn’t offer much in the way of great expectations–other than to wonder “if man is still alive…”

Well, to be fair, they weren’t just concerned with “man.”  They actually continued the thought by pondering whether “…woman can survive.”

So here we are again with me offering my “two cents” about  sexually inappropriate and harassing behavior in daily conversation.

I might even throw in a little story.

And so…

If you are ever confused about what to say and what not to say to avoid even the appearance of being sexually inappropriate, or engaging in sexually harassing behavior, avoid the following statements and/or questions:

  1. “You’re being overly sensitive.”
  2. “What’s wrong with me complimenting your legs?”
  3. “I see you have a tattoo on your neck, where else do you have tattoos?”
  4. “Maybe if you flirted a little, it might help us get <insert thing here>”
  5. “Do blondes have more fun?”
  6. “That’s not sexually inappropriate/sexual harassment!” (An easy out for people who are uninterested in learning about sexually inappropriate conversation/sexual harassment)

This list is not exhaustive.

Again, while some of these points are blatant, others are very subtle yet highly offensive— and today, I am going to include some REALLY blatant shit that people have said or done to me.

For your consideration:

Once upon a time, LadyG was seated at a table reading a book when a co-worker sat down at the same table.

This guy, a real tool, was the son of a well known Dentist in South Georgia.

Anyway, while LadyG sat quietly reading, this jackass started singing his own rendition of Prince’s “Darling Nikki—where he substituted ‘LadyG’ in the verse that talks about “masturbating in the lobby with a magazine.”

It should be noted that this same guy later grabbed LadyG’s behind and stated, “I always wanted to know what a black girl’s butt felt like—Wow! It’s jigglier than I thought.”

And do you know what LadyG did in each case?

NOTHING.

-THE END

It is important to note that I was selected to receive this position by my professors. 

In fact, I was the only female there, at the time, working with three law school students—one of which was the asshole that I just told you about.  

It definitely didn’t help that I was only a sophomore working toward my BS degree.

To be honest, I felt that I was the most powerless person in this situation.  

Flat out, I was the only woman working with a group of men during the height of Anita Hill versus Clarence Thomas.

Chile, I saw what happened to Prof. Hill so I never reported the guy.

But let me be clear, the other law students and my supervisors were very kind and helpful to me.  That said, I often stuck under the other two law students in order to feel safe from the third guy’s advances.  

Now I know that there is someone in the ethers saying, “Well, he was just an asshole.”

He most definitely was an asshole.

But, this was more than being an asshole, this was him sexually harassing me.  

Now I know that what he did was pretty cut and dry, but there are many situations where, like with racism, you can’t “define it” but you know it when you see it.  

My cousin Ron describes this phenomenon perfectly in his post, I cannot define it.

Sadly, this is not the only time that I experienced this, or something like it.

Shall I elaborate?

How about the time I was at the mall grabbing a maternity dress for my baby shower, when this jackass walked right up behind me and said, “Hey, why don’t you let me finish that off.”

Or the time a friend of my family said, “You’re good and grown now, I just want to come visit you.”  Let’s just say, he was NOT my peer and he was not my friend.

Or the time a male who was close to the family told me I was a “fine mother-f’er.”

Or the time I was in the library and a dude, who was in one of my classes, called me over to the table and began counting a large wad of money while looking up at me and back down at the money in a suggestive way.

Or when a security guard at work tried to kiss me in an elevator—totally unprovoked!  He offered to do something else more explicit that I’ll keep to myself.

Whew…once again chile—the shit is tiring and I really could go on.  

I’ve had so many sexually explicit and not so explicit things said and done to me in my lifetime that I cannot count them.

Sadly, the first instances were in childhood and the perpetrators were mostly grown men—none of them were family members.

I never said anything about it or my Dad would still be in jail for murder!

I think Alice Walker’s words, spoken through Sophia in The Color Purple, express it best, “A girl child ain’t safe in a house full of mens.”

So, I think I’ll stop here and encourage anyone who is ready to have a polite and meaningful conversation about anything that I mentioned in this post to drop down in comments so we can chat.

Racism and Prejudice in Daily Conversation

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Racism no longer exists!

-Some Earthling from 7510

Astute 1960s music aficionados will recognize the aforementioned, 7510, as the year that Zager and Evans said, “If God’s a-coming, he ought to make it by then…”

That’s right, over 50 years ago our dear singers predicted that 7510 would be the year of Divine judgment!

Personally, I believe that we are being judged daily–by our own conscience.

That’s assuming that we have one.

Anyway, I find it kinda eerie that while Zager and Evans titled the song, In the year 2525, they don’t say much else about that year–other than to wonder “if man is still alive…”

In fact, it appears as if they simply opted not to complete their thesis about what 2525 might bring.

I shudder at the thought!

Anyway, this post has very little to do with that song other than to illustrate how much farther, as a society, we have to go in order to become more advanced in our thinking; I pray we get there before 7510 because 2525 is beginning to look like a freaking wash!

Ok, so after watching and listening to a whole lot of people talking about racism these days, I decided to put in my proverbial two cents by offering a couple of suggestions on how to avoid racist/prejudice talk in your daily conversations.

I might even throw in a little story.

And so…

In essence, if you are interested in having a genuine conversation on race–or anything else–with black folks, please refrain from saying any of the following:

  1. “Racism does not exist.”
  2. “You’re being overly sensitive.”
  3. “How do you know <insert complex, intellectual, technical, little-known, sophisticated topic here>
  4. “How did he/she/they get a better grade than I did?”
  5. “How did she/he/they get that job, house, car, thing?”
  6. “Family doesn’t mean much to Black people” (Said by some foolish ass congressman, very recently.)
  7. “That’s not racism!” (An easy out for people who are uninterested in learning about racist remarks and behaviors.)

This list is not exhaustive.

While some of the above points are blatant, others are very subtle yet highly offensive. In fact, I’m NOT even going to include the REALLY blatant shit that people say.

That said, I am willing to offer a more slick example of how prejudiced beliefs and attitudes slither into a daily conversation. (This is an example of my 3rd point from above)

For your consideration:

Once upon a very recent time, LadyG was having a conversation with a couple of co-workers about travel.

During the conversation, Lady G stated, “I’d like to go visit Findhorn someday.”

To which one of the co-workers, a white female who fancies herself to be very well versed on just about every damn thang, inquired, “What is Findhorn?”

To which LadyG replied, “It’s a beautiful community in Scotland where they have been known to grow gigantic vegetables by working closely with spiritual beings that inhabit the land.”

Before LadyG could complete her sentence, her co-worker had whipped out her iPhone, looked up Findhorn, and was instantly amazed at how accurate LadyG was in her description of the joint.”

“Hmm,” dear co-worker responded, “And how do you know about that?”

To which LadyG shot back, “I’m just nosey as hell.”

-THE END

Granted, the average person in Georgia has no clue what Findhorn is–never mind where it is.

Hell, some of you are also probably wondering how I knew about it.

Let’s just say that I am an avid reader who loves to learn about new people, places and things.

At any rate, it’s not so much that she asked that question, it’s more the way she asked the question.

It was clear to me that she didn’t think it was possible for me to have any knowledge about a subject that she did not already know about.

Who was I to know so much about something that she had never heard of?

Now, I can hear someone in the ethers saying, “How is that racist, she’s just a know-it-all.”

True dat!

She definitely was a know-it-all!

But here’s the thing…do you think she would have asked a white woman or man the same question– with the same kind of undertone?

Would she have been completely amazed that another white person could know about Findhorn?

I’d wager that she would not have asked another white person that question–at least not in the same way.

She asked me with an air of suspicion–disbelief.

Now, if, in fact, she had asked another white person, it would have been out of genuine curiosity–a “tell me more” kind of situation.

Trust me, as a black woman, I know the difference.

I’ve experienced this, or something like it, more times than I can properly count.

Seriously, I could give you a thousand other examples; including the one where the white male student asked my Political Science professor how I got a better grade than he did on an essay exam. It should be noted that the professor, who was also white, was the one who told me what the guy said.

Oh! What about the time a white co-worker told me that I was not “black… black.” By that, she meant that I was not like “regular black people”–whatever that is.

Or, the time my white Biology professor told me that I was one of only two black students to ever get an A in his class. Why did he feel the need to tell me this?

Oh yeah, what about the white English professor who stopped me after class one day to ask where I was from because she could tell from my writing style that I couldn’t be “from around here.”

Whew chile…it’s tiring y’all!

So, I think I’ll stop here and encourage anyone who is ready to have a polite and meaningful conversation about anything that I mentioned in this post to drop down in comments so we can chat.

A Family Conversation: We Need To Do Better, Crazy Conspiracy Theories, And The Man Who Incurred No Cost

“A Family Conversation” is a storytelling audio series that features weekly discussions between blogging cousins LadyG and Ron Brown on current events along with favorite posts from each other’s blog.


Catch up on the first part of this conversation, HERE.


Contains VERY Adult Language

In today’s audio, the cousins are talking about:

  • “Un-rehab-able”: More thoughts on the fools in Harlem that beat up a woman for not accepting their advances
  • Re-birthing (See links below)
  • Insurrection!  What is you so mad about?
  • Corey Ryan Forrester’s video RANT!
  • What was the real motivation? What was the plan?
  • Gird up the “democracy”
  • What have you done for Trump lately…Oooooh Yeah! 🎶
  • Fear of losing control of the country
  • Social Media Algorithms leading America to HELL:  “You might like this…”
  • Conspiracy theories are great for marketing merchandise
  • Fools came to town
  • Ebb and flow
  • Don’t argue, be compassionate- no ultimatums
  • Mad for no reason, LadyG keeps harping on this one point!
  • Cult of personality
  • You are of no use, You’re going to jail-no pardons
  • A “moral hazard” –The man who incurred no cost
  • Ron’s haunted lamp


Links:

Healthline: Is Rebirthing Therapy Safe and Effective?

NIH: Rebirthing therapy banned after girl died in 70 minute struggle

Racial Equity In The Economy Means We All Win

Racial equity is a win-win proposal.


My cousin Ron and I often talk about the nebulous meaning of a “good economy” and how some people love to point to it whenever they want to brag about how well the country is doing.

We heard a lot of that during the previous Presidential Administration.

Back to my point.

Now, if we were to quiz these same people on said “good economy” they would likely be hard-pressed to give a coherent definition of the concept.

To be more specific, I would argue that the measures which determine what is and what is not a “good” or “healthy” economy are difficult for most people to practically comprehend –with the exception of the unemployment rate.

However, a few months ago, I ran across a study that pointed to a direct connection between discrimination and major economic loss in America.

No doubt, this fact is shocking but definitely not hard to understand.

Point blank, discriminatory practices in the U.S. have resulted in major economic loss for the country as a whole, and now is the time to turn these deep rooted practices around.

If we can do this, we will have brought racial equity to the table and we all win.

Sadly, there are those who will gladly accept this and future losses–to their own detriment–out of sheer hatred and stupidity.

But, that said, I’m convinced that more of us are interested in the well-being of the collective.


Here is what the study found:

According to Citigroup, as quoted in this article from NPR, the U.S. economy lost $16 trillion since 2000 due to discrimination and other broad reaching policies that were blind to racial equity.

The article goes on to count all of the losses:

  • $13 trillion lost in potential business revenue because of discriminatory lending to African American entrepreneurs, with an estimated 6.1 million jobs not generated as a result
  • $2.7 trillion in income lost because of disparities in wages suffered by African Americans
  • $218 billion lost over the past two decades because of discrimination in providing housing credit
  • And $90 billion to $113 billion in lifetime income lost from discrimination in accessing higher education

Today’s Black History Month Observation:

Despite popular public opinion, Black people are not asking for handouts, we are asking to have systemic filters removed so that we can proceed through and rise to our highest potential.

LadyG


I don’t want nobody

To give me nothing

Open up the door

I’ll get it myself

Don’t give me degeneration

Give me true communication

Don’t give me sorrow

I want equal opportunity

To live tomorrow

James Brown, The God Father of soul (1969)

A Family Conversation: The Khobar Towers Attack (1996) Family Love and Connection(Part II)

“A Family Conversation” is a storytelling audio series that features weekly discussions between blogging cousins LadyG and Ron Brown on current events along with favorite posts from each other’s blog.

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Contains Adult Language

Listen to the first part here.

In today’s audio, the cousins are talking about:

  • The rest of the letter
  • Changing education and career plans
  • Deadlifts and The Iron Cocks uncle whose nephew idolized him
  • Ron’s PTSD due to the attack aftermath and his duties as a Medic
  • “Monuments to procrastination:” The precursor to THIS blog!
  • Ernest Hemingway’s “little sister”
  • God’s timing
(2003) The precursor to Seek The Best Blog: This was going to be Ron’s spot to highlight some of his writings in the family newsletter that I created. I called his column: “The World According To Ron Brown.” Sadly, back then, it didn’t go anywhere–but, alas, God’s Timing!

Why Waiting For The “Best Circumstances” Is A Bad Idea

And sure enough even waiting will end…if you can just wait long enough.   

William Faulkner

(Video below)

The pandemic did a helluva job shining a light on things that I had once been unable– or unwilling to see.

For me, a beam of searing white-hot light illumined the fact that I’ve had a horrendous case of waiting for (INSERT THE BEST CIRCUMSTANCES HERE) syndrome.

And I didn’t even know it.

Well, maybe I did.

Okay, yes, it’s possible that I knew it; but, I never really questioned it.

That’s right, I never questioned it until this accursed outbreak pushed so many of my dreams, like global traveling, out of reach.

Now I’m left wondering:

What in the hell was I waiting for?

Seriously, during all that time before the pandemic…why didn’t I do more of the things I wanted to do?

Now, let’s shine the light towards you!

I’m curious to know, so I’ll ask:

Why should you wait?

Don’t get me wrong, I am not talking to a teenager questioning the right time to make a serious decision–because in that case, as a mother, I’d say WAIT UNTIL YOU’RE GROWN….And then wait a little longer.

And I’m definitely NOT talking about someone who is debating the need to seek legal or medical advice for a serious situation.

I am talking to people, like me, who have been waiting for any number of “best circumstances,” future events, situations or possibilities to occur.

You see, up until now, I had been waiting for:

The perfect time to write a book

My daughter to graduate so I can travel internationally

The money to come from “somewhere”

My ship to come in

Someone else to “come around” or “make up their mind” or “appreciate my worth”

But guess what?

According to Faulkner, even “waiting ends.”

Unfortunately, it sometimes ends in ways we hadn’t imagined.

For some of us it has already ended.

Forever.

And so, I see now that I no longer have the luxury to wait because waiting for the best circumstances to make a move has stunted my growth!

FORGET “best circumstances.”

The time is nigh.

Right now, I’m writing a book.

I’m finding ways to do things that I had previously waited to do…NOW!

And you should too!

It’s A Ramble! Cheap Meat, Clutter, Birthdays and “Abs of Steel.”

In this rambling video I deal with some cheap meat and 30-year-old paper clutter.

I also plan a birthday tea for my daughter–her gift this year? “Abs of Steel,” of course! No seriously, I gave her this VHS as a gag gift since I noticed that a lot of gen z’ers love laughing at old boomer/gen x aerobic dance and workout videos.

Listen close for my impression of a British accent (an accent that I adore!)

Lots of memories here!

Thankfully, I finished decluttering and I had it all thrown out or donated by Jan 31!

Enjoy!

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